Dasha
(our 21 year old) is at Notre Dame for her Senior year. She is not legally our daughter, but we
"unofficially adopted" her 5+ years ago when her mom gave us power of attorney over her. Mom still pays most of her bills but has not seen her for 3+ years
(due to Ukraine/Russia war, VISA issues, etc). We call her our daughter, introduce her as our daughter, but we all know she is not legally our daughter. When she is frustrated with me she does call me dad!!! There is mutual love.
So Dasha and her friends decide to move off campus for this, their senior year, at Notre Dame. Mom agrees. We agree. They pick a complex near campus. All of them are moving into the same complex. We took her there on Sunday to move her in. It is a total pig stye. The physical apartment Dasha rented in nice size, layout good, appliances good, etc. But seriously filthy. Walls are literally dirty with human filth. Floors and kitchen appear pretty clean? But cobwebs are literally on EVERY wall, hanging from ceilings, etc. At the air vents there is black dust/dirt all around them. She is in tears. We go to office to ask WTF?!? They come to inspect with us and say that it meets their standards for 'move in' clean.
Holy shit. WTF!?!
It is slum lord management at its finest.
We can't get her out of the lease. There are no other NEAR campus units available
(we checked, and our 28yo daughter is a corporate lawyer so she checked too). Dasha is in tears. So We literally sweep the dirt and cobwebs off the ceiling and walls and go to work. Buy a vacuum. Mop the floors. Clean the carpets. SCRUB everything. That was Sunday and Monday.
We go shopping. Buy her a new mattress to replace the mattress that is supplied with the "furnished" apartment. Don't ask. Just WTF and WOW. Buy a TV and WiFi router. All new kitchen stuff, including pots and pans and microwave and toaster. Again, this is a furnished SLUM so we chuck everything they provided into the complex dumpster or "returned" it to them for their next victim. Monday we took her some extra furniture we were about to donate to a local charity shop (
thankfully we were too busy to get it there so we still had it). Tomorrow she is getting more of our old furniture that we planned to donate.
She is actually pretty happy now. She sees what it will become. I can't believe the complex management, but it is what it is. They take advantage of 1 year leases and simply don't give a shit because they have a steady flow of new tenants and waiting lists to get in, simply because they are next door to campus.
So this week is pretty much HELL WEEK at college. And it is only Tuesday. Truck is loaded with a comfy chair, a side table and a bike. Plus the carpet cleaner, and lots of other supplies, all of which will be delivered to her on Wednesday when we go to paint the living room, dining and kitchen. I have more to take on Thursday, and hopefully we can paint the hallway or bedroom on Thursday? There will probably be at least 1 more day of painting but that will happen NEXT week??? We can't go on Friday/Sat/Sun/Mon because we have 3 year old foster son Kobe with us those days.
I thought I retired and was supposed to relax in my old age? At least I remember to bring a bottle of wine and put it in the fridge!
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