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Sushi, rback has a damn good offer. rback, thanks for going over & beyond for our friend.
One more alternative I just thought of this morning, is to set a time frame. You said you have "accounts pending". Give them a set time, say 1 week, to see IF they are going to come thru. Plan on that happening. But during that time, get your resume out, and write a resignation. If things take off, great, no harm done. I they don't, then turn the resignation. That gives you time to get your mind-set in order.
 
Some are giving up on Sushi for not making a move. Understand his situation first. He has no money saved....and very little confidence. He's used to a parent that calls him an idiot with every decision he makes. It's no wonder he's afraid to make a move.
It's scary when you are swinging along and barely holding on to let go of one limb when your high in a tree to grab another.
 
American Woman said:
Some are giving up on Sushi for not making a move. Understand his situation first. He has no money saved....and very little confidence. He's used to a parent that calls him an idiot with every decision he makes. It's no wonder he's afraid to make a move.
It's scary when you are swinging along and barely holding on to let go of one limb when your high in a tree to grab another.
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You summed it up pretty well Cory.:thumb:
 
Sushi, just promise, if we don't give up on you, you will NOT give up on your-self. Yes, It's gonna take a lot of guts, but you got 'em. Ya just gotta find 'em.
 
some one once said this to me....


"Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better person." ~Benjamin

Hmmmmmmm cant remember who but go get em tiger:thumb:
 
Awrite people! Are we grownups or are we kids on the playground picking on somebody we "think" is inferior to ourselves?? Some of us are acting like the latter, I'm afraid.
AW told it like it was, concerning Sushi. Redneck suggested he give himself an ultimatum. Both are correct, in my opinion. Lots of people have suggested different things, gave advice, or in general, tried to buck his spirits up. KUDO's to those. To the few of you who have taken potshots at him???? Not so much.
I, for one, would feel more than horrible if I were to find out that Sushi DID go out and end it all. I've been wayyy too close to a situation where someone did just that, and I'd hate like hell to relive it again. So, I guess if you can't say something a little nicer, than log off and go take a good healthy crap. you might feel better afterward.
 
Trakternut said:
Awrite people! Are we grownups or are we kids on the playground picking on somebody we "think" is inferior to ourselves?? Some of us are acting like the latter, I'm afraid.
AW told it like it was, concerning Sushi. Redneck suggested he give himself an ultimatum. Both are correct, in my opinion. Lots of people have suggested different things, gave advice, or in general, tried to buck his spirits up. KUDO's to those. To the few of you who have taken potshots at him???? Not so much.
I, for one, would feel more than horrible if I were to find out that Sushi DID go out and end it all. I've been wayyy too close to a situation where someone did just that, and I'd hate like hell to relive it again. So, I guess if you can't say something a little nicer, than log off and go take a good healthy crap. you might feel better afterward.
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Thanks Monte....It hits home for a lot of us.

Come'in from a big guy like you would straighten me up....But I'm already a good girl :halo: :blush:
 
Trakternut said:
Awrite people! Are we grownups or are we kids on the playground picking on somebody we "think" is inferior to ourselves?? Some of us are acting like the latter, I'm afraid.
AW told it like it was, concerning Sushi. Redneck suggested he give himself an ultimatum. Both are correct, in my opinion. Lots of people have suggested different things, gave advice, or in general, tried to buck his spirits up. KUDO's to those. To the few of you who have taken potshots at him???? Not so much.
I, for one, would feel more than horrible if I were to find out that Sushi DID go out and end it all. I've been wayyy too close to a situation where someone did just that, and I'd hate like hell to relive it again. So, I guess if you can't say something a little nicer, than log off and go take a good healthy crap. you might feel better afterward.
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spot on m8....i have lost 2 people close to me in a way that was well....i need not say more.

Sushi my friend all but a few love you for what and who are so dont be affected by ought negative.....Beers are on me.

Sushi for president:thumb:
 
Sushi-

You've received so much feedback that you're certainly further confused and unsettled in addition to probably angered... yet also you see people appreciate and care. So, great that people care... and you're also hearing from folks that are used to just resolving things on their own without blogged input, etc....

If you don't know what you want to do other than sales (or where to go if staying in sales) ...if you really don't have much of a preference or direction then I hate to say it but it may be best to ride your current job out. I can't imagine with all the feedback you can make an analytical decision especially if the economy isn't great and it would just be jumping from sales back into sales if you're just going to get out fast.

The best thing may be to bust your hump and ride it out. If it doesn't turn out then you're out of a job and hang with your family/friends and you'll go through some tough times but maybe you need some quiet and stress-free reflection to figure out what you want to do. You'll collect some unemployment to keep things afloat as you spend time with family/friends and contemplate.

If it turns out and your accounts hit then maybe things will perk up and you will once again be operating in a lower-stress environment and you can then do something similar of reflecting on what you really want to do...possibly investigate non-sales jobs... to get away from "how can I win your business" or "what will it take?" or "why haven't you hit your numbers?" blah, blah, blah...

Who knows.

I think you should go periscope down and stop spending so much time on this forum and use it to think about and investigate your next move...or maybe just PM with your closest friends on here. You're getting many opinions, lots of suggestions, and also stress at the same time and it's also consuming time that you could use to either learn a new skill/trade/etc. or just settle and think about the options out there.
 
Mainer said:
I think you should go periscope down and stop spending so much time on this forum and use it to think about and investigate your next move...or maybe just PM with your closest friends on here. You're getting many opinions, lots of suggestions, and also stress at the same time and it's also consuming time that you could use to either learn a new skill/trade/etc. or just settle and think about the options out there.
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VERY GOOD ADVICE!!

That said, do you really have friends via the internet?

What is a friend?

Sorry guys, I call it like I see it.
 
dzalphakilo said:
VERY GOOD ADVICE!!

That said, do you really have friends via the internet?

What is a friend?

Sorry guys, I call it like I see it.
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little off topic but to me a friend is some one that listens and offers advice when a friend is in need no matter what....that in mind i feel i have made many friends here on FF.
 
kimi said:
little off topic but to me a friend is some one that listens and offers advice when a friend is in need no matter what....that in mind i feel i have made many friends here on FF.
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No offense, but a "friend" on the internet is worth shit unless they are willing to "put up".

Written words can do many things for the soul I realize, but actions speak louder than words, particularly from those writing the words (whose actions are usually only writing the words).

If by chance you need to go to the internet to look for advice from a "friend" on the internet, might as well be on the doctor phil show.

Shit, I'm a hot chick that Sush would like to do:D

(that said, if he came over with a boner, I'd shoot his sorry ass)
 
dzalphakilo said:
No offense, but a "friend" on the internet is worth shit unless they are willing to "put up".

Written words can do many things for the soul I realize, but actions speak louder than words, particularly from those writing the words (whose actions are usually only writing the words).

If by chance you need to go to the internet to look for advice from a "friend" on the internet, might as well be on the doctor phil show.

Shit, I'm a hot chick that Sush would like to do:D

(that said, if he came over with a boner, I'd shoot his sorry ass)
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i wont even think about rising to such a lame comment in this area of the forum....im sure the Moderators will do what's needed here.
 
kimi said:
i wont even think about rising to such a lame comment in this area of the forum....im sure the Moderators will do what's needed here.
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Lame comment??

OK....

I need money.

Who here will send me 20K?

I only know a couple people personally on this forum. I think those who know me know what kind of man I am.

I got an idea...lets all be friends on the interent and we'll do EVERYTHING that is needed for each other so we all can lead healthy, richfull lives!

FACT is a friend to me is more than someone I only know via the internet.

Then again, I guess it's what your definition of a friend is. For myself, the term "friend" has always been used too losely.

Willing to give up your life?
 
dzalphakilo said:
Lame comment??

OK....

I need money.

Who here will send me 20K?

I only know a couple people personally on this forum. I think those who know me know what kind of man I am.

I got an idea...lets all be friends on the interent and we'll do EVERYTHING that is needed for each other so we all can lead healthy, richfull lives!

FACT is a friend to me is more than someone I only know via the internet.

Then again, I guess it's what your definition of a friend is. For myself, the term "friend" has always been used too losely.

Willing to give up your life?
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at no point as any one asked for money....or asked someone take a bullit....just having a crap time and spilled their situation knowing its a place to get crap of your chest and get a mature and supportive response....whats wrong with this??

i thought this area of the forum was for doing this....maybe im wrong.
 
Hey Dz, though it sounds pretty harsh what you and some others have said there, I hear ya, in a way.

Saying that- I would certainly hope Sushi has "buds" he hangs out with who can give him advice on this and other matters which seem to put his life in a tail-spin.

Internet friends are special because sometimes you can talk to them STRAIGHT and cut right through the bullshit, whereas you couldn't always do that with your "in the physical" friends.
If I didn't consider most of these people friends at all in some way, I wouldn't waste my time sitting here on the forums, nor would I care to say anything in regard to Sushi's problems.
;)
 
kimi said:
at no point as any one asked for money....or asked someone take a bullit....just having a crap time and spilled their situation knowing its a place to get crap of your chest and get a mature and supportive response....whats wrong with this??

i thought this area of the forum was for doing this....maybe im wrong.
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Lets see...

Yes, everyone here is a great person.

Yes, everyone here has a role to play in life.

Yes, we're all here for a reason.

Yes, everyone is equal.

Yes, we're all here to better enrich each other lives.

Yes, we all love each other.

If your life sucks, I really feel sorry for you.

Feel better now?

I swear, sometimes I really feel like a democrat!
 
pirate_girl said:
Internet friends are special because sometimes you can talk to them STRAIGHT and cut right through the bullshit, whereas you couldn't always do that with your "in the physical" friends
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Sorry Charlie, if you can't be straight with your real friends in person, you're a lost cause.

Guess my problem is I'm to straight with people:D (and yes, you can be an asshole when you call it like you see it).
 
dzalphakilo said:
Sorry Charlie, if you can't be straight with your real friends in person, you're a lost cause.

Guess my problem is I'm to straight with people:D (and yes, you can be an asshole when you call it like you see it).
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I can be straight at all times, whether with "REAL" friends or here.

Anyway, I am talking about Sushi, not you..not me..:bangin:
I HOPE he's got a couple of friends he hangs out with on occasion to discuss and share his life's problems, is the point I was trying to make.
 
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Democrat.. yeah.. you ARE coming across like a bit of an ass...
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Problem with todays world is too many people worry what others think about them.

That said, want to know what work I do with not only for animals, but for people?

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, particualry those words written on the internet.


FACT is the greatest person who we all think on the internet is (because they give such great advice and seem SO caring) could be a child molestor and none of us would know.
 
dzalphakilo said:
Problem with todays world is too many people worry what others think about them.

That said, want to know what work I do with not only for animals, but for people?

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, particualry those words written on the internet.


FACT is the greatest person who we all think on the internet is (because they give such great advice and seem SO caring) could be a child molestor and none of us would know.
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how did we arrive here :wtf:

i refuse to answer to such bollox
 
The thing is that people portray themselves differently on the internet simply displayed by the fact that 'people cut through the BS' and get straight to the point. Take that for example and it would lead people here to think a person is aggressive and the type of leader that takes action and would go find that job, etc... when in reality (or in physical presence), the person may not be that way at all... people often 'become' someone else (see so many people's avatars...), so giving people advice is only going to be so beneficial because the personality they appear to be online (and who we give advice to), may be totally irrelevant and useless because the person would never take action on the advice given he/she is 'someone different' in physical...maybe timid/shy/whatever...
 
I just noticed Sushi started threads: "Dollar losing clout around the world..." and "Losing Our Lakes..." I haven't read them and I'm sure they're good but... Dude. Stop! ... spend time on your career...figure out what you want to do! Maybe you want to go be a humanitarian green forest-saver or lake saver or whatever... but you must put a lot of time into the forum and also into reading on topics like those... which will NOT get you toward a new career (ok, it *could* but it's highly unlikely...). Yes, they are important, but right now you're talking about losing your job...that stuff can go back burner.

Look... your stats... you've made 4,459 posts to this forum! Dude! Focus on either your job or finding a new job...research until you find what you want to do.
 
Mainer said:
The thing is that people portray themselves differently on the internet simply displayed by the fact that 'people cut through the BS' and get straight to the point. Take that for example and it would lead people here to think a person is aggressive and the type of leader that takes action and would go find that job, etc... when in reality (or in physical presence), the person may not be that way at all... people often 'become' someone else (see so many people's avatars...), so giving people advice is only going to be so beneficial because the personality they appear to be online (and who we give advice to), may be totally irrelevant and useless because the person would never take action on the advice given he/she is 'someone different' in physical...maybe timid/shy/whatever...
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Are you saying that people take action per what is told to them per the internet?

I guess at least the internet will give you what you want to hear. What about those praying to their God?
 
dzalphakilo said:
Are you saying that people take action per what is told to them per the internet?

I guess at least the internet will give you what you want to hear. What about those praying to their God?
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No. I do not think people take action on it. I think people have been giving Sushi tons of feedback and they have been for a while... hell, I did and I hardly read this area... but nothing has changed. My point is that people act like the person that they may want to be more like...more outgoing...more flirtatious... or they talk about things and know that people will most likely give responses that they look to hear because people are often working/looking to create frienships online that are safe/open/etc... but how the news/feedback they receive online and what they turn that into in the real world are very different things. Not in all cases, but I think most.
 
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