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I am going to lose my Mother
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ncroamer65
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Prayers sent for you .your Mom, and your family, if the Lord takes
your Mom may she go peacfully.
In my case having lost both at different times the Lord helped me
to realize that heaven is a most beauriful place to be in.
your Mom may she go peacfully.
In my case having lost both at different times the Lord helped me
to realize that heaven is a most beauriful place to be in.
Trakternut
Active member
Thinking of you, on this difficult day.
NorthernRedneck
Well-known member
I'll be thinking about you today PG. Be strong and know that she'll be in good hands.
Rusty Shackleford
Automotive M.D.
you all are definatley in my thoughts and prayers. so sorry to hear it
I just read all your very kind words, and for that I am very thankful from the bottom of my heart.
Mom was taken off the ventilator yesterday and is still hanging in there- resting comfortably under the good care of the hospice team.
We can't know at this point when she'll decide to go, as she's already proven just how strong she is.
Without going into much detail, I will say last night she ate small ice chips and was talking as best she could, knowing full well what is coming and she's accepted it without one tear shed or question as to what brought this all about.
I don't think she remembers anything about being ill, she's just wanting relief and wanting to go be with God.
That's where my thanks to you guys comes in.
If you think for one minute the prayers and good thoughts meant little over here in my world and this whole experience, think again.
Every word is a treasure and all of you mean more than you'll ever know.
I've come home to get a shower and get some things in order, then will be heading back.
Much love!
Mom was taken off the ventilator yesterday and is still hanging in there- resting comfortably under the good care of the hospice team.
We can't know at this point when she'll decide to go, as she's already proven just how strong she is.
Without going into much detail, I will say last night she ate small ice chips and was talking as best she could, knowing full well what is coming and she's accepted it without one tear shed or question as to what brought this all about.
I don't think she remembers anything about being ill, she's just wanting relief and wanting to go be with God.
That's where my thanks to you guys comes in.
If you think for one minute the prayers and good thoughts meant little over here in my world and this whole experience, think again.
Every word is a treasure and all of you mean more than you'll ever know.
I've come home to get a shower and get some things in order, then will be heading back.
Much love!
rback33
Hangin in Tornado Alley
I have not been around much so I am a bit late. More prayers and hugs sent to Lollie... We have just through this here. They took one of my college friends off of the vent and other life support this week as well. I can only hope you are finding the peace I am searching for myself right now.
OhioTC18
Gone But Not Forgotten
Lollie, one of these days I'll tell ya a story of my experience. This is not the place or time. It's your thread.
We have posted these comments because we knew that you knew we cared.
Alonzo Tubbs
Carpe Diem
Lollie- You've been on my mind and in my heart all day. Fresh prayers set about fifteen minutes ago. It will be over soon and your Mother will be young and beautiful and with your Father again. Probably run into a guy named Steve. What a wonderful place she's going to...
Cary
Cary
Left the hospital at 8pm. Mom is still with us. She's comfortable.
Today my brother, sister and I had the chance to have individual quiet time alone with her.
The nurses moved Mom over to the far side of her bed so we could lie down beside her if we chose to do so.
I did, and held her, talked to her about how beautiful and wonderful she's always been, and told her the last time we'd done this was probably the day I was born. She smiled.
One lovely thing about hospice care is that the family members are allowed to take an active part in the comfort care.
I've been bathing her, giving her mouth care (told her today the Chapstick was Revlon fire engine red), and asked her if she wanted her nails painted. So I spent a long time loving on Mommy because I know the end is coming soon.
I pray that it is SOON.
We told her to go be with Dad. She said "where are we going?"
A priest and a minister have been in to pray with us, as well as some creepy hospital chaplain which my brother sat and rolled his eyes over, which made me shoot out of the room bent over laughing in the hall, I know.. bad me.
So see, facing imminent death of a loved one isn't all seriousness and morbid thinking. At least not in this family.
We've cried and laughed more in the last couple of days than ever before.
Thank you again everyone. I won't be updating this thread again until the end actually comes.
Jerry, you need to PM me and tell me about what it is you've gone through.
Jeremy, I hope you find peace hun, I really do.
Cary, I do believe Steve will be waiting for Mom with bells on, he adored her and she adored him.
It's good to be home this evening and knowing I'll be sleeping in my own bed with my doggie and spending a little time on the forums.
Today my brother, sister and I had the chance to have individual quiet time alone with her.
The nurses moved Mom over to the far side of her bed so we could lie down beside her if we chose to do so.
I did, and held her, talked to her about how beautiful and wonderful she's always been, and told her the last time we'd done this was probably the day I was born. She smiled.
One lovely thing about hospice care is that the family members are allowed to take an active part in the comfort care.
I've been bathing her, giving her mouth care (told her today the Chapstick was Revlon fire engine red), and asked her if she wanted her nails painted. So I spent a long time loving on Mommy because I know the end is coming soon.
I pray that it is SOON.
We told her to go be with Dad. She said "where are we going?"
A priest and a minister have been in to pray with us, as well as some creepy hospital chaplain which my brother sat and rolled his eyes over, which made me shoot out of the room bent over laughing in the hall, I know.. bad me.
So see, facing imminent death of a loved one isn't all seriousness and morbid thinking. At least not in this family.
We've cried and laughed more in the last couple of days than ever before.
Thank you again everyone. I won't be updating this thread again until the end actually comes.
Jerry, you need to PM me and tell me about what it is you've gone through.
Jeremy, I hope you find peace hun, I really do.
Cary, I do believe Steve will be waiting for Mom with bells on, he adored her and she adored him.
It's good to be home this evening and knowing I'll be sleeping in my own bed with my doggie and spending a little time on the forums.
I know it is hard to do but if your able to look at death of a person that is in bad health as a way for them to feel better and not suffer anymore it makes it a lot easier to deal with. I'm sure your mom will be in a much better place than this one and never be sick again. Just remember all of the good times. Prayers still coming from all of ours to all of yours
So sorry to read about this. (sorry for my poor english writting.. I am french speaking)
I lost my mom 15 years ago but she is still very with me in my head.
She was an angel then and she still is.
I know this is not like real life but she is not gone for me.
I wish you all the strenght to live this.
I lost my mom 15 years ago but she is still very with me in my head.
She was an angel then and she still is.
I know this is not like real life but she is not gone for me.
I wish you all the strenght to live this.
I said I wouldn't update this thread again until the end comes.
It hasn't as yet. Mother is still holding on, if by a thread and God only knows how she is doing this.
I've been at the hospital all day yesterday and most of today.
She has all the physical signs of a patient who should have gone 24 hrs ago, yet she's still fighting for that last breath.
That is what I don't want to see. She's a shell of the person she once was. That isn't my Mother lying there any longer.
Eight of my family members are there spending the night. I chose not to be.
I am 100% certain she will go in the wee hours of the morning when everyone isn't standing over her staring and holding vigil.
I said my final good bye, told her to stop being stubborn, that everything is taken care of and she needs to let go.
Thanks for the continued thought and prayers.
We're all more than prepared for the passing and will welcome it as a blessing and a relief.
It hasn't as yet. Mother is still holding on, if by a thread and God only knows how she is doing this.
I've been at the hospital all day yesterday and most of today.
She has all the physical signs of a patient who should have gone 24 hrs ago, yet she's still fighting for that last breath.
That is what I don't want to see. She's a shell of the person she once was. That isn't my Mother lying there any longer.
Eight of my family members are there spending the night. I chose not to be.
I am 100% certain she will go in the wee hours of the morning when everyone isn't standing over her staring and holding vigil.
I said my final good bye, told her to stop being stubborn, that everything is taken care of and she needs to let go.
Thanks for the continued thought and prayers.
We're all more than prepared for the passing and will welcome it as a blessing and a relief.
fogtender
Now a Published Author
Baloney, you update this thread as often as you feel like it. It is the only one I have been checking on lately!
Humor by the way, is one of the best ways to deal with some sad times and keep one's sanity.
When my mom was going though the same issues, she could only squeeze her right hand for a yes or no answer, the brain was home, but the body wasn't and it just shut down... So I would sit there and tell her of the stupid/Idiotic stuff my brother was up to and she would cough a laugh despite all the issues with a big snort and a tear. I even put slivers of chocolate under her tongue for a long squeeze of her hand.
Keep talking to her about the good stuff and the rest will filter in later.
rc2james
New member
Our prayers are with you Lollie. I held my little brother’s hand as he pasted away, and the feeling was not one of sorrow but the feeling that he was released from the burdens of his life here. Your mother going to be free to sail on the wind and to be an angel that can glow pride at her accomplishments.
She's still hanging in there. How and why, I do not know.
This morning the county hospice nurse paid her daily visit to the hospital.
Mom's stats at that time were:
bp: 64/38
temp: axillary 101.3 = 102.3
respers:18
heart rate: 81
pulse ox: 72
They've been running wildly up and down all day. She is fighting the end, that's for sure.
When I left tonight, she was snoring and was very still. Like she was sleeping peacefully.
Mom's best friend Norma and her daughters went to KFC and brought in 2 buckets of chicken, all the fixin's and sat in the room with us. A gathering of sitting, standing, eating.. laughing and crying people.
Mom always loved a Sunday dinner crowd.
Today was a good day actually. Hardly anyone cried, there was more laughter than anything else.
Perhaps that's why she is holding on. She wants everyone whom she's ever loved to come to grips with the fact that she's heading toward Heaven, and she wants to make darn sure WE are prepared for it.
That's my Mom!
This morning the county hospice nurse paid her daily visit to the hospital.
Mom's stats at that time were:
bp: 64/38
temp: axillary 101.3 = 102.3
respers:18
heart rate: 81
pulse ox: 72
They've been running wildly up and down all day. She is fighting the end, that's for sure.
When I left tonight, she was snoring and was very still. Like she was sleeping peacefully.
Mom's best friend Norma and her daughters went to KFC and brought in 2 buckets of chicken, all the fixin's and sat in the room with us. A gathering of sitting, standing, eating.. laughing and crying people.
Mom always loved a Sunday dinner crowd.
Today was a good day actually. Hardly anyone cried, there was more laughter than anything else.
Perhaps that's why she is holding on. She wants everyone whom she's ever loved to come to grips with the fact that she's heading toward Heaven, and she wants to make darn sure WE are prepared for it.
That's my Mom!
I agree Linda. Even though she is pretty well unresponsive now, I know she can hear everything we've been saying.
Actually she'd have slapped a few of us today if she could, as we reminisced about her "Mom-isms", through the years.
She was and IS quite a lady.
Something very nice about today. The CCU nurses who'd last attended to Mom on that floor sent up a note to 2 east where she is right now.
The note said: We extend our condolences to your family at this time, then it went on to say your family and friends were one of the most civil, respectful groups we've had at the hospital in quite some time.
We thought that was pretty cool.
3:27 am, Mother went to be with God.
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