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I am going to lose my Mother

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I don't really like posting things in this thread because it's not my way to share really personal happening events in my life on the forums much.

Last week, Mom had a routine colonoscopy.
Two days later, she comes down with a temp and has to be sent to the hospital.
Kidney infection/Urosepsis, which led to Pulmonary Edema.
She was taken over to CCU.
She's been on a load of antibiotics since then and last night was placed on a vent as the attending physician said her lungs simply weren't clearing or working on their own any longer.
They gave her a paralytic drug last night, which basically put her into an induced coma.
Today (this evening) they've stopped that drug and are giving her Morphine to keep her out.
The doctor has advised that we remove the vent, and allow her to go.
This will be happening on Wednesday as soon as the rest of the family fly in and can be here with us all.

The purpose of starting this thread is to ask for prayer, or at least good thoughts.

I believe that once the vent is removed it's going to be all in God's hands after that.
She may linger, she may go quickly.
I didn't agree with the removal of the vent, but I was out-voted by other family members.

Mom opened her eyes a little tonight, and I think she knew what was going on.
She wouldn't want to live like this.

So, please say a prayer or just think something nice for Barbara and my family please.

Thanks.
 
The Prayer is already sent. Little Darlin, when the pain of loss becomes so great, I remember the words to wonderful old hymn:

"...when it's just to much to bear
What a privilege to carry everything to him in prayer"

I believe very strongly in the power of prayer to aid in healing, to relieve grief. Prayers will be sent daily until you decide they are no longer necessary.

Lollie, I can't be there for you but I can be here. You have my number. What ever you need, what ever I can do, call.

Love Ya Little Pirate

Cary Nelson

770 559 4573 (in case you lost it )
 
I am always at a lost for words when a dear friend is hurting. Please know that you and your family will be in my prayers and thoughts. As always I pray the Lord will take her gently in his arms and carry her home. Sending a warm and loving hug to you across the ocean.
 
HulaMac said:
I am always at a lost for words when a dear friend is hurting. Please know that you and your family will be in my prayers and thoughts. As always I pray the Lord will take her gently in his arms and carry her home. Sending a warm and loving hug to you across the ocean.
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Thanks for saying what i couldn't say. I have u and ur mom in my prayers PG and only hope for God's will in tough times like these.
 
Oh, gosh! Lollie! I am so very sorry!!! Prayers coming right away! Don't know what else to say, except I care, very much.


((((((GREAT BIG BEAR HUGGS)))))))
 
I'm so sorry for your pain right now...Prayers and Thoughts from me and my Family.
 
Take comfort in knowing that we're all here with you in thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

I personally know exactly what you're going through. My father had a colonoscopy back in '95. We were all called to the hospital at 3am as they didn't think he'd make the night. Thankfully, he pulled through. I remember the feelings as I watched my grandfather slip away peacefully two years ago. No amount of words can ease the pain I felt that day.

Just remember that she will always be with you looking down from above.
 
pirate_girl said:
The purpose of starting this thread is to ask for prayer, or at least good thoughts.
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So, please say a prayer or just think something nice for Barbara and my family please.

Thanks.
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Consider it done, for her and for you.
 
God bless in this difficult time ................. Thoughts and prayers go out.
 
I too am sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are out to you, your Mom and your family.
 
Prayers for you and your family. May she pass quickly like my mom did recently. It is in God's hands now.
 
Sorry to hear PG, not that I pull a lot of weight with the big guy, but my prayers are with you too.
 
Tough situation on the whole family. Especially when all don't agree. Everyone is doing what they think best for her, or what she would want. Like I told you over on NMT, you, your mom and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hang in there Lollie!!!!!!
 
As always, I wish you the strength to deal with whatever comes. I offer any support that you might feel that I can give.

Andy
 
There are those of us who appreciate that you trust in us enough to share the difficult times.

Your Mom, You and your family are in our prayers.
 
Thank you everyone for the outpouring of love, and your prayers.

I spent all day at the hospital, in and out from time to time- to allow others to have some private time with Mom.

They've gone the route of lowering some of the meds now until tomorrow afternoon,so she'll be somewhat alert to be able to understand what the palliative care nurse (and her doctor) will be telling her about removing the vent on Wednesday noon.

It's odd when families have to come to this kind of decision for a parent.
My brother keeps saying "Whatever Mom wanted/wants, that's what we're going to do."
My sister spent most of the day angry at me because I have some slim false hope that perhaps she'll be able to breathe on her own once the vent is removed and the proper meds are administered (yes, I've seen miracles happen).
Her stats have been excellent today.
She was responding to touch, voice and opened her eyes when my sons both talked to her, if only for a brief time.

I know full well what the outcome could be, and am more than prepared for that.

Even in times like this I can find some humour in some things.

Whenever the nurses would come into suction Mom, the machine makes an alert noise like a horn when she coughs through the vent.
Between her lying there with the vent tube in mouth and that damned machine making the noises, I told her I hadn't realized she knew how to play the clarinet.

Again thank you all for being so beautiful and kind with your words.

They mean more than you know.

Tomorrow I'll be sticking around here doing laundry and catching up on lost time with the doggie and getting some personal things taken care of before I head back over to the hospital for the day.

It's very important to me that my aunts and uncles have some time alone there with her without the other 12 of us going in and out of the CCU wing like we've been doing.

Love to all.
 
Thank you for keeping us current on your Mom's status. I know I wasn't the only one wondering but afraid to ask. Hang in there Little Pirate. Fresh prayers were sent today and will be again tomorrow.

Cary
 
Thanks Cary.
It's very nice knowing you and everyone else on the forum are truly being loving and supportive in this.
It's a little strange turning to people on the internet for prayers and such when it's from my own point of view even though I have offered the same wholeheartedly myself before to other members here.
Guess that means we really are a family doesn't it?

By the way, I was going through a bushel of papers, certificates and cards today that my sister (who is Mom's POA) brought in for us to look at.

Hadn't realized until today that Dad lied about his age way back then to get into the Navy :smile:

I also saw Mom and Dad's marriage certificate from a St. Leonard's Catholic church. :)
 
You have my deepest sympathy, PG.

I'm not good at the touchy-feely things, so I usually avoid these threads to avoid saying the wrong thing and offending someone. Your comments at the start of this thread reminded me of my mother. I was visiting her in the hospital last week and saw her "DNR" bracelet. I am thankful that she took that decision out of our hands several years ago.
 
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