Don't feel that you're "between a rock and a hard place". Funerals are not the place to decide whom can come. A wedding, maybe but definitely not a funeral.If he shows up for the service, he shows up and I DO want him to be there, because after all, this is his Aunt. and I know he wants to be there for me.
The thing is, the rest of the family don't want him around.. so I am caught between a rock and a hard place.