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Have you ever dated someone of a different ethnicity?

Lenny said:
I dated a Hispanic once and a black woman once. The black woman lived in Compton, California and that was the problem. It was a predominately black city and everyone gave me dirty looks so I quit dating her. I met her at work.
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It would be difficult to stand up to a whole city or community of people looking down on you for just wanting to be with someone. :oops: I understand why you stopped dating her. That situation might have been too much for the both of you to overcome.
 
Misa said:
It would be difficult to stand up to a whole city or community of people looking down on you for just wanting to be with someone. :oops: I understand why you stopped dating her. That situation might have been too much for the both of you to overcome.
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Yeah, that's the conclusion we came to.
 
Answer: no, I've never dated anyone outside my ethnicity.
Dad always said you can bring home a Filipino, Chinese or a Jap - direct quote btw.
I think he was accepting of those only because my Uncle Jack was married to my Aunt Midori (Japanese).
I wouldn't call my Father a racist, but being a long term serving Navy, his opinions on other ethnicities more than likely came from experiences thereof.
I never questioned it.
 
pirate_girl said:
Answer: no, I've never dated anyone outside my ethnicity.
Dad always said you can bring home a Filipino, Chinese or a Jap - direct quote btw.
I think he was accepting of those only because my Uncle Jack was married to my Aunt Midori (Japanese).
I wouldn't call my Father a racist, but being a long term serving Navy, his opinions on other ethnicities more than likely came from experiences thereof.
I never questioned it.
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Yes, most people will view other ethnicities based on the experiences they've had with them (positive or negative) or based on things they have heard, read or seen about them. Sometimes, that could be to the detriment of two people wanting to be together, as it was the case with me and I think two other members on here. But everyone has the right to their own opinion, even if other people don't agree with it.
 
Misa said:
Yes, most people will view other ethnicities based on the experiences they've had with them (positive or negative) or based on things they have heard, read or seen about them. Sometimes, that could be to the detriment of two people wanting to be together, as it was the case with me and I think two other members on here. But everyone has the right to their own opinion, even if other people don't agree with it.
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One always has to look at the future and what it will mean, in terms of angst and happiness, for each other as you go through life together. Incompatible ethnicity can be overcome. However, it simply cannot be omitted from that calculation.

As for parents, they most often are truly concerned for the happiness of their children. Sometimes, that caring is in conflict with the values and standards of the children they raised. And sometimes, as I believe with my mother, there was a bit of possessive mendacity.

BTW; Kudos to your dad. Only a loving parent is able to let their offspring fly without a tether.
 
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echo said:
Remember your gene pool
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Why?
Health issue of your parents and family?
Except for the health issues, that can be limiting.

You are what you allow yourself to become.

Advice from a stoic,
Do the best you can, with what you have, where you are. It is the only circumstances you can control.
 
FrancSevin said:
Why?
Health issue of your parents and family?
Except for the health issues, that can be limiting.

You are what you allow yourself to become.

Advice from a stoic,
Do the best you can, with what you have, where you are. It is the only circumstances you can control.
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I would think one would choose a person you date with having an ounce of sense in case it turns into a long time relationship.
 
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