NWOBHM80
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OK, so long story short, I've had poor luck with relationships. Short story longer, it all began in high school, after I seriously became attracted to people. Then, I was too shy to ask out anybody I liked. In college, I didn't bother asking out anybody because I felt like anybody I was interested in had already been taken, not to mention I tended to distrust most fellow students. After college, I tried various online dating sites on and off, with no success; people would either not respond at all or would ghost me after a few messages. Fast forward to 2020, and a young lady whom I'd known from a writing group asked me out, and seeing it as a good opportunity, I said yes. At first, the relationship went well, but after about a year, I felt like the flame had died and the fire had gone, so I asked her how she felt about the relationship. She made it pretty clear that she thought of me as her boyfriend, but based on the way she was behaving towards me, I knew she wasn't going to give me something I truly wanted out of the relationship, so last month, I told her we should just be friends. At first, she took it well, but she also gave off a couple of cues that told me differently, and sure enough, the following night on Facebook, she sent me a message saying that she didn't think we should be friends, that I hurt her feelings and that she wished me the best but she was done. Because of this, I'm having these thoughts of "why bother with relationships? I'm probably better off being alone".
