Tractors4u
Active member
I've shared this with a couple of folks on here, but I thought I would let the rest of you know. I am separated and going through a divorce right now.
Things started going down hill in 2005. My wife came home and confessed to having propositioning a guy from work while they were at an out of town conference. She said he turned her down and nothing happened. The only reason she told me was because they'd had an argument at work and she was afraid he would tell me. We got past that and then I went to Iraq in August of 2007. While I was there I got annoyed several times by things she would say and her unattentiveness when I would call. I would call her at work shortly after she got there. She would chit chat with co-workers while I was on the phone with her. That was just annoying, but you'll see why it was worse shortly. She had another male friend from work that she talked about constantly. During one conversation she told me that during a work trip he told her, "I wish we had dated when we knew each other in college". She said she thought that was sweet. When I got home after a year over there, they were car pooling to work. I put a stop to that quickly. Later I found an e-mail from her to him, it was pretty generic in content but was signed, LU4e. I asked her what that meant. I knew what it meant, but I wanted to hear her say it. She said, "Love You Forever. " She explained that she just loved him as a friend. I have lots of friends, but don't sign e-mails to them that way. Later on I went online and looked at our cell phone bill. I wish I had done it earlier because I could only see the last 12 months and months had passed since I'd gotten home. There were hours and hours of calls and text messages to this guy. Some in the middle of the night. The kicker was I could tell exactly when she had dropped the kids off in the morning because she would call him and then I could tell when she would get to work because the call would end. That is why she never had more than 5 minutes for me in the morning and didn't care to talk. She had already been on the phone for 30 to 40 minutes with this guy that she works with. We went to marriage counseling for 6 months and he didn't help any. One of the things we discussed was her spending and her support of her mother (who also has a spending problem) and her deadbeat brother. The final straw came when I found out she was paying his student loans. The brother who was driving a new car and has his own place. I had asked her where the money went from my deployment. I had cleared $98,000. $9000 had been put down on my new truck and there was none left. I pulled my credit report and saw a credit card in my name had been opened before I left and closed before I got home. American Express showed a peak balance of $15,600. When I went through the old carbon copies of the check books there were payments made to Master Card totaling $24,500 for the year.
I moved out in July of last year and until recently, I have been living with a cousin of mine. I recently moved into a house that I am renting until the divorce is final. At that time I will purchase the house.
I went to do something honorable by serving my country and this is the thanks I get.
Things started going down hill in 2005. My wife came home and confessed to having propositioning a guy from work while they were at an out of town conference. She said he turned her down and nothing happened. The only reason she told me was because they'd had an argument at work and she was afraid he would tell me. We got past that and then I went to Iraq in August of 2007. While I was there I got annoyed several times by things she would say and her unattentiveness when I would call. I would call her at work shortly after she got there. She would chit chat with co-workers while I was on the phone with her. That was just annoying, but you'll see why it was worse shortly. She had another male friend from work that she talked about constantly. During one conversation she told me that during a work trip he told her, "I wish we had dated when we knew each other in college". She said she thought that was sweet. When I got home after a year over there, they were car pooling to work. I put a stop to that quickly. Later I found an e-mail from her to him, it was pretty generic in content but was signed, LU4e. I asked her what that meant. I knew what it meant, but I wanted to hear her say it. She said, "Love You Forever. " She explained that she just loved him as a friend. I have lots of friends, but don't sign e-mails to them that way. Later on I went online and looked at our cell phone bill. I wish I had done it earlier because I could only see the last 12 months and months had passed since I'd gotten home. There were hours and hours of calls and text messages to this guy. Some in the middle of the night. The kicker was I could tell exactly when she had dropped the kids off in the morning because she would call him and then I could tell when she would get to work because the call would end. That is why she never had more than 5 minutes for me in the morning and didn't care to talk. She had already been on the phone for 30 to 40 minutes with this guy that she works with. We went to marriage counseling for 6 months and he didn't help any. One of the things we discussed was her spending and her support of her mother (who also has a spending problem) and her deadbeat brother. The final straw came when I found out she was paying his student loans. The brother who was driving a new car and has his own place. I had asked her where the money went from my deployment. I had cleared $98,000. $9000 had been put down on my new truck and there was none left. I pulled my credit report and saw a credit card in my name had been opened before I left and closed before I got home. American Express showed a peak balance of $15,600. When I went through the old carbon copies of the check books there were payments made to Master Card totaling $24,500 for the year.
I moved out in July of last year and until recently, I have been living with a cousin of mine. I recently moved into a house that I am renting until the divorce is final. At that time I will purchase the house.
I went to do something honorable by serving my country and this is the thanks I get.
