What makes men cheat?

[American Woman]

I do agree it has to do with sex, however, the question still remains "why did they stop having sex"? I don't think it is as simple as just not getting enough or any sex. when sex stops it either because of medical reasons or personal reasons.

I agree that this happens a lot of the time....What it boils down to is they take each other for granted. If your a couple you gotta talk, because there is always someone else that will do it for you, and may not be in the best interest of your marriage.

 

[CityGirl]

Why do men/women cheat? Because they choose to. That is the only reason. Anything else is an excuse.

 

[Trakternut]

Y'nailed it, CG.

 

[rback33]

Why do men/women cheat? Because they choose to. That is the only reason. Anything else is an excuse.

Y'nailed it, CG.

That sums it up! I am sure your friend is a great guy T-nuts, but he CHOSE to cheat rather than communicate with his about things. Did he try and change shifts? Did he try to take any interest in what she wanted to do? There are lots things Princess likes to do that I find boring as hell. I don't going with her to do those things (within reason) because I value our time together more than I hate the activity. Both sides have to make sacrifices for marriages to work. Sacrificing your partner will not work though.

 

[princess]

awwwwwwwww.......... I knew you loved my piggy self

 

[ddrane2115]

On the other hand, if the sex goes out the window, and there's no repairing it.. it's over.
I felt repulsed by my ex after I found out he was cheating.
My parents suggested marriage counselling, the parish priest even came to the house.
I wanted nothing to do with him after I found out he'd been cheating, so it was over in my eyes, so in that instance, yeah it was my fault that the glue that had held us together no longer stuck, because I didn't want it to and wouldn't let him touch me after that.
It died, and I left him.

you are a smart lady with a great attitude.

 

[sared]

Sometimes men are just too weak to resist temptation. sometimes they even put themselves in that position.

 

[fogtender]

except it's counselor M. Gary Neuman who is the one that makes it a medical social anomaly...and except it's men that are the main reason men cheat....it's as simple as "no"

Now that is funny... Most men aren't gay, so they have to have the "Women" to cheat with... I am assuming it is pretty hard to cheat by yourself.... that would count anyway...

Sushi, any coments?

 

[American Woman]

Originally Posted by American Woman
except it's counselor M. Gary Neuman who is the one that makes it a medical social anomaly...and except it's men that are the main reason men cheat....it's as simple as "no"

Now that is funny... Most men aren't gay, so they have to have the "Women" to cheat with... I am assuming it is pretty hard to cheat by yourself.... that would count anyway...

Sushi, any coments?

I think I was saying men can only blame themselves when they cheat. It's as simple as saying say "no"
The artical was about Men and why they cheat. I think if they did this about women they would find just as many cheat for the same reasons. It's a human mistake.
In my first marriage I was faithful. I think TOO faithful. Knowing what I know now...I think life is too short and I should have moved on a lot quicker than the 10 years I wasted on him. If I had cheated on him he would have deserved it, and I could have moved on quicker and easier than I did.
PS.....I met Redneck about 10 years A.D. (after divorce)

 

[andrewmoquin]

These days, we can't seem to escape the notion that men in Hollywood just can't stay faithful to one woman. Jude Law's recent infidelity and the speculation that Brad Pitt http://www.forumsforums.com/3_9/#cheated on Jennifer Anistonhttp://entertainment.ivillage.com/celebs/0,,7n742vlq,00.html are the focus of the media's fascination. Whether these actors live in such a different reality that this kind of thing might be part of the job description, we can't say. But when Jude and Brad can't keep from straying from seemingly ideal women like Sienna Miller and Aniston, we're left to wonder what that means for the rest of us. A poll done by the New York Times in 2000 found that 44 percent of the male respondents admitted to having had an extramarital affair (and that percentage doesn't include those unfaithful guys who weren't willing to own up to their transgressions). Are men inherently unfaithful? What reallymakes guys cheat? We asked the Love Council to weigh in.

 

[pirate_girl]

These days, we can't seem to escape the notion that men in Hollywood just can't stay faithful to one woman. Jude Law's recent infidelity and the speculation that Brad Pitt cheated on Jennifer Aniston are the focus of the media's fascination. Whether these actors live in such a different reality that this kind of thing might be part of the job description, we can't say. But when Jude and Brad can't keep from straying from seemingly ideal women like Sienna Miller and Aniston, we're left to wonder what that means for the rest of us. A poll done by the New York Times in 2000 found that 44 percent of the male respondents admitted to having had an extramarital affair (and that percentage doesn't include those unfaithful guys who weren't willing to own up to their transgressions). Are men inherently unfaithful? What reallymakes guys cheat? We asked the Love Council to weigh in.

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[fogtender]

There are guys that spend a lot of time chasing women for the thrill, being married don't seem to change that for them and it goes both ways for wifes.

But I think that from talking with guys that cheated over the years, they were lonely. That doesn't mean they were by themselves, they were with someone that treated them like they weren't there. I would assume that goes both ways since it takes two to tango you might say.

Can't tell how many times I have seen married couples with one of them berating their spouse in front of others and then expect them to be loving in return.

After a number of years, it seems that sometimes the "Mate" is treated like a pet dog, figuring it doesn't need anything but petted now and then and it will be faithful... Sometimes you need to take the dog out for a walk or to the beach and just bond with it, just because you owned it for a bunch of years doesn't mean you can ignore it.

People aren't much different...

 

[Trakternut]

A feller I know had several extramarital affairs over a period of several years. When the sh*t hit the fan, they sought marriage counseling as they both wanted to salvage their marriage. He was totally honest about everything, including his feelings of why he went after other women when he had a good woman at home. His reasons were exactly those that Foggy mentioned. He was lonely. His wife had issues to deal with and had shut him out. He owned up to his responsibility for the affairs, she learned to let him be a part of her life and its problems and they're stronger than ever before!

 

[waybomb]

Forgive the pun - It's bushes fault.............

 

[Wart]

I've read only the first and last page of this thread (20/page) and I see some have come close to the 'answer'.

Question shouldn't be what makes men cheat. "Cheating" implies monogamy is the natural order. Question should be "What makes men want to remain monogamous".

And whats more, Why limit this question to Men?? It's not like their the only ones not remaining monogamous.

The natural order of biology is for humans to have multiple partners. THe predominant way of the animal is gene diversity through multiple combinations genomes. It's programmed into us, through brain chemistries and hormones 'polygamy' been hard wired into us.

We're not choosing to cheat, we're choosing to stay 'faithful'.

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