Lia
Banned
I've put this in this section because the subject of the post, ie: TV 'Professionals,' often make me mad... its a kind of rant, I guess. 
I was late up this morning; I have a lazy day to fill and, being on my own today, I was idly drifting throughout the house, not really planning on doing anything too constructive or strenuous; so I turned on the TV and flicked thro the channels, not really wanting to watch anything heavy, and thought an episode of Dr. Phil, might hold my attention for a while.
Man! That guy ought to be struck off! He’s not quite as morally bankrupt as Sally Jesse was, nor is he quite as rude and capricious as Judy Sheindlin, but imho, he may be charming, charismatic even, but he's also a decided quack.
There was this young girl on the show, couldn’t have been more than 23 maybe (I wasn’t listening that closely), very presentable, petite, blond, post grad, and extremely insecure (sinisterly so, imho). She’s been dating a guy for a couple of years, living with him; but he was unfaithful, met someone else, and moved out.
His ex is going thro a really tough time over it, and, according to her, she breaks out in hives at the thought of him being with someone else, has nightmares and wakes up feeling sick; she can’t eat, and says she feels embarrassed and pitiful at her attempts to ‘get him back,’ which include going round to his house and begging, literally on bended knees (her words), calling him, sending letters, taking every opportunity to run into him, etc, etc…
She checks his mail box and admits to doing anything and everything she can to try to split him and his new GF up, because, she says; “I had him first, so naturally, that makes him mine!” Unkindly perhaps, but quite predictably the studio rocked with laughter. And a good few, including myself, rolled our eyes...
Dr. Phil gave his usual satirical and not so subtle sarcastic pep talk, which included reminding her of her obligations and responsibilities to her own dignity and her emotional well-being, and generally, gently harangued her with platitudes such as; “Don’t you think you owe it to yourself…?” and “Get a life, move on; you’re still young, and have your whole life ahead of you.” etc, speech, which is his stock in trade, and in general, is all good advice. Not rocket science, just plain talking. Common sense.
But, here’s the thing. Not once did he tell her in plain English, spelt out so that there could be no mistaking the message that what she was doing was, in fact, against the law. She may be in pain, she may be emotionally unstable right now, but, what she has been doing for the past 6/12 months is nothing short of the ‘crime of stalking,’ Imho.
There can be no other term used for her actions. Checking his mailbox is nothing short of outrageous. Calling him umpteen times a day, sending hordes of mail, turning up wherever he happens to be, deliberately bumping into him to beg and plead is an invasive and sinister course of behaviour.
He doesn’t want to be with her anymore, and as painful as that may be to her (we can all sympathize, we've all broken up with BF's and GF's before), it does not excuse her sinister behaviour. Dr. Phil advised her to ‘move on,’ but he never once warned her of the consequences of her insidious activities in trying to ruin her exes life, and that of his new GF.
Does anyone here believe that he had an absolute duty, as a ‘professional’ to have somehow introduced that aspect to the equation? Or perhaps you may think that her behaviour was acceptable, given the circumstances, and her emotional state of mind? Do these TV ‘professionals’ really do any good? What message was he sending to those in similar situations, here; that it’s ok to chase, corner, and continuously harangue someone who doesn’t want to be with one?
I was late up this morning; I have a lazy day to fill and, being on my own today, I was idly drifting throughout the house, not really planning on doing anything too constructive or strenuous; so I turned on the TV and flicked thro the channels, not really wanting to watch anything heavy, and thought an episode of Dr. Phil, might hold my attention for a while.
Man! That guy ought to be struck off! He’s not quite as morally bankrupt as Sally Jesse was, nor is he quite as rude and capricious as Judy Sheindlin, but imho, he may be charming, charismatic even, but he's also a decided quack.
There was this young girl on the show, couldn’t have been more than 23 maybe (I wasn’t listening that closely), very presentable, petite, blond, post grad, and extremely insecure (sinisterly so, imho). She’s been dating a guy for a couple of years, living with him; but he was unfaithful, met someone else, and moved out.
His ex is going thro a really tough time over it, and, according to her, she breaks out in hives at the thought of him being with someone else, has nightmares and wakes up feeling sick; she can’t eat, and says she feels embarrassed and pitiful at her attempts to ‘get him back,’ which include going round to his house and begging, literally on bended knees (her words), calling him, sending letters, taking every opportunity to run into him, etc, etc…
She checks his mail box and admits to doing anything and everything she can to try to split him and his new GF up, because, she says; “I had him first, so naturally, that makes him mine!” Unkindly perhaps, but quite predictably the studio rocked with laughter. And a good few, including myself, rolled our eyes...
Dr. Phil gave his usual satirical and not so subtle sarcastic pep talk, which included reminding her of her obligations and responsibilities to her own dignity and her emotional well-being, and generally, gently harangued her with platitudes such as; “Don’t you think you owe it to yourself…?” and “Get a life, move on; you’re still young, and have your whole life ahead of you.” etc, speech, which is his stock in trade, and in general, is all good advice. Not rocket science, just plain talking. Common sense.
But, here’s the thing. Not once did he tell her in plain English, spelt out so that there could be no mistaking the message that what she was doing was, in fact, against the law. She may be in pain, she may be emotionally unstable right now, but, what she has been doing for the past 6/12 months is nothing short of the ‘crime of stalking,’ Imho.
There can be no other term used for her actions. Checking his mailbox is nothing short of outrageous. Calling him umpteen times a day, sending hordes of mail, turning up wherever he happens to be, deliberately bumping into him to beg and plead is an invasive and sinister course of behaviour.
He doesn’t want to be with her anymore, and as painful as that may be to her (we can all sympathize, we've all broken up with BF's and GF's before), it does not excuse her sinister behaviour. Dr. Phil advised her to ‘move on,’ but he never once warned her of the consequences of her insidious activities in trying to ruin her exes life, and that of his new GF.
Does anyone here believe that he had an absolute duty, as a ‘professional’ to have somehow introduced that aspect to the equation? Or perhaps you may think that her behaviour was acceptable, given the circumstances, and her emotional state of mind? Do these TV ‘professionals’ really do any good? What message was he sending to those in similar situations, here; that it’s ok to chase, corner, and continuously harangue someone who doesn’t want to be with one?
