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Tough day at work

NorthernRedneck

NorthernRedneck

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One by one, we all came into the office this morning in our regular routine of chatting and laughing while we waited for the coffee to brew in the lunch room. That all stopped when one of the workers came in and informed us of something terrible that happened last night.

My manager's 11 year old granddaughter gave away her computer, deleted her facebook acct, gave away anything of value to her friends, then went into her room and slipped a rope around her neck and hung herself. It's a very sad day at the office today.

We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and our office in particular is like one big family. Please remember to keep my manager and his entire family in your thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

We are doing all we can do by providing support to his family.
 
Wow Brian. I am at a total loss. You and your coworkers are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
What we're scared of right now is the effect this will have on her friends and family. In the past in our area, suicides have come in bunches. It has happened before where one person did it, then another, and another etc. We have workers in with the family and in her school providing mental health supports and any other kind of services we can offer. It's a tough deal for sure.
 
Sad that she was so young and felt that pressured. I experienced this with my oldest boy in 1992 and the fear goes on a long time. The worst part is the self questioning and always asking what if for things that happen after this tragedy. Prayers for her family in some very trying times.
 
loboloco said:
Sad to hear Brian. Not to be insensitive, but any idea what motivated her?
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At this point, we're not entirely sure what motivated her to do this at such a young age. The family does have a past history that I can't really get into. I do know that the she has had to deal with allot in the past. Others have said that when speaking with her, it was as if they were talking to an 18 year old.
 
groomerguyNWO said:
At this point, we're not entirely sure what motivated her to do this at such a young age. The family does have a past history that I can't really get into. I do know that the she has had to deal with allot in the past. Others have said that when speaking with her, it was as if they were talking to an 18 year old.
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That seems to be the problem these days IMHO , Kids are not allowed to be kids & perty much forced by some parents to grow up to fast , the way things are in the world to day thats a lot of preasure for those to young to understand or even be subjected too . Sad really .
 
That pretty much sums it up. It's what I deal with on a daily basis. Kids that have to deal with way more then any normal kid out there. I work with them until they are 18 yrs old as they grow up in foster care.
 
I really do not know what to say to this. The warning signs in retrospect of giving away the items were there, they were not recognized. It is really sad to see someone so young not being around any longer.
 
In '98, my 19-yr old stepson put his 9MM to his head. This is not to detract from your thread, Brian, I just want you to know I understand where your manager is at.

Reddog referred to warning signs. There are classic signs, but, a lot of suicides do not manifest them. It's really hard to respond to a sign you don't recognize. Sort of like having a road sign printed on a plain sheet of paper in small type so you can't know what it is unless you examine it closely. Classic road signs have shapes and colors so you know what they are without reading the actual wording.

Brian, your manager is in for a hell of an emotional rolleroaster. He/she will progress in healing, only to suffer a setback, then reprogress, and so on. He/she needs a good support system at work, which it sounds like exists already, to help with the daily healing.

If I can offer any help, feel free to PM me.

Tell your manager that an old, fat, feller in Jamestown, North Dakota has walked that walk and knows how it goes.

Prayers forthcoming.
 
Thanks. You're right about the signs being so small. It all boils down to educating people to recognize the signs. I had a good friend put a gun to his head about 5 yrs ago. I know the struggles my manager faces in the days, weeks, years that follow. It doesn't get any easier to deal with as time goes by. There are always questions as to why? What could I have done to prevent it? etc...
 
So sorry to hear,my heart goes out to the family,some things are understood and some things will never be,so young and now gone.it seems the younger generation are now exposed to trials in life none i could never even have imagined when i was young,:ermm:
 
Got a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach reading this.
So sorry to hear about this.
My thoughts and prayers are being sent.
 
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