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Jess-n-April

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I like to have this conversation and have only once been able to hold it with such a potential volume of participants.

When is the proper time to introduce sex into a relationship?

Also, is a relationship that begins with sex almost from the very beginning doomed?
 
Jess-n-April said:
I like to have this conversation and have only once been able to hold it with such a potential volume of participants.

When is the proper time to introduce sex into a relationship?

Also, is a relationship that begins with sex almost from the very beginning doomed?
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After much time.
Usually.
 
That is a fine way of putting it into words,
Most my relationships have begun with sex...either on the first date, or near enough to make no matter.
Seems those relationships are better in that honesty comes more easily. After you share that part of yourself with someone, the rest just seems to come naturaly.
 
Jess-n-April said:
After you share that part of yourself with someone, the rest just seems to come naturaly.
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Most times it's like the party is over before it's begun.
Sex is a very personal thing to share.
After you've 'done it' on a first date or whatever.. then you'll be reaching for what can we do next?
One shouldn't jump into the fire first.
Then again, that's just my opinion.
 
I have been on both ends of the circumstance....though the longest I think I have waited in a relationship until getting naughty was about 5-6 months. There were quite a few others in which we waited a few weeks or a couple of months. I found that with the women I waited with, that there were underlying truths about myself that I found hard to be forthcoming with, and it was the same with them.
One Ex I had dated for 5 months had only told me certain things about herself after we slept together, but none of the things she told me led to our relationship failing....that ultimately was because we moved further apart.
 
well, as a person near your age, i can say, any guy that tries to get some in a night's time just pushes me away. i'm not interested in guys that only wanna get laid, then go brag to thier boyz. that's high school nonsense to me.

i seek respect from a guy even if i'm drawn toward him in that manner the second i see him. lust sans love wears often wears away too quickly, if anything develops at all. i've seen it oh too often amongst the girlz i hang w/ & know of. love, then lust & sensuality creates a solid bond for me, personally. i'm not saying wait & wait; i think the moment should just happen on its own in due time. you'll know.

anyhow, there's too much to worry 'bout: u could be a guest on maury povich, saying, 'i am 100% sure maury, that i'm not that baby daddy.' or get a disease, or get confused on if it's love or if you're only hanging on for the time spent beneath the sheets, when you could be finding a person you really know you love...... give it a few, i say. it's easier on u both in the end.

as female, i know i'd rather wear a tiara that says 'loved & taken' than a tiara that says, 'tramp'. IMHO.
 
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