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BigAl

BigAl

Gone But Not Forgotten
I am executor of a trust . With the economy in the toilet, I have long term leased out some real estate to help cover cost of repairs/taxes ,etc. in my fathers estate .

So the fund is building and I decide to split some funds off to the names in the trust . I inform them that a check will be coming to each of them before Christmas .

Then my XXXXXXX , that is always a pain in my ass, calls and tells my wife to hurry up on his check ????
He did not even know I was going to do this until two days ago . WTF?????
This is the second time he has pulled this stunt . Its not like he is broke .

After today , it will be a cold day in hell before another check is written to him .... maybe his grown kids .
I am under no rules to disbuse this money except by my own decision .


I hate greedy people .

O yea ,


Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas :sad::doh:
 
I can relate as I've had to deal with this on my wife's and my side of the family in the past. I always found it strange how the existing relatives cared more for what they had coming than the actual person before they died.
 
joec said:
I can relate as I've had to deal with this on my wife's and my side of the family in the past. I always found it strange how the existing relatives cared more for what they had coming than the actual person before they died.
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Yup , sad but thats one thing that never has or will change I'm afraid. :neutral:
 
Cowboy said:
Yup , sad but thats one thing that never has or will change I'm afraid. :neutral:
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I know when I've left this side of the grass each of my kids will get some items predetermined by and nothing to fight over. I don't want them to go through some of the sibling fights I've seen prior.
 
You know ... Life seemed to be a lot better when we had nothing but each other to hold on to .
 
The wall street boys took a lot of mine so there won't be much to fight over!:clap:Except for the farm. I have thought more than once about spending it all before I go. I would hope the wife outlasts me and don't want her suffering.
 
joec said:
I can relate as I've had to deal with this on my wife's and my side of the family in the past. I always found it strange how the existing relatives cared more for what they had coming than the actual person before they died.
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I'll second that.

My wife has gone through this as executor of her uncle's will. She worked for 12 long years to build his estate when he was incapable. She built it from less than nothing to a sizable sum. After his death and the heirs received their first disbursement, only 3 of the 13 (two were her sisters) even bothered to thank her. It was more money than most of them had ever had at one time in their lives. And, it always seems that is always one asshole and true to form we had one true nutcase. She hadn't had any contact with her uncle for 40 years but the thought of getting even more money made her a true pain in the ass. When were we going to sell his house? When were we going to sell his farm? She started to get threatening, accusing us of stealing "her" money. We had to threaten legal action to get her to stop calling all the time, sometimes several times a day. She still raises her head every now and again and has to be firmly told to piss off.

I told my wife that this was something that we were not going to get involved in ever again. Next time we'd have the court appoint an executor and let them hassle with all that crap.
 
hey my wife and i could use the money.we dont have enough to pay doctor bills medicine food house car,much less buy the grandkids a small christmas present.we told the 3 of them not to expect anything that way if we do get them a small gift it sure will be a suprise
 
I have done three of them without a major problem. One was my aunt who died when she was 99 and ten years in the nursing home. She started out with 100K and social security. It did not last long.

The only beneficiary was her last remaining sibling out of nine. She was the oldest with the youngest one remaining. The youngest one wanted to know when we were going to settle the estate. What estate?

Sent her a check for half of her life insurance set up for her funeral after the funeral expenses. It was a small check, but I did not do it for the money, I did it because she was my mother's sister and she had no one else to do it.
 
I don't know how it works with you guys but if you are named executor of a will/estate in Texas, unless the will specifically mentions payment and an amount, the executor doesn't get paid. It's a freebie. If the person named in the will refuses to be, or can't act as the executor, they can petition the court and have one appointed (usually a lawyer) and the court will decide what the payment from the estate will be.

I can see where in a lot of cases where there isn't much to be disposed of that it can be a relatively simple matter but in others it can be quite complicated and messy. Just a case in point, my wife's uncle had a home in town and also a small farm. Try liquidating those in this market. You can't get rid of them at a knock down price or you lay yourself open to being sued by the one asshole that always seems to be one of the beneficiaries and is convinced that they are being cheated. It can drag the whole process out for years.
 
why the hell do relitives expect to proffitt of some ones death i here this all the time my parents raised me and i expect nothing from them
 
dds said:
why the hell do relitives expect to proffitt of some ones death i here this all the time my parents raised me and i expect nothing from them
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Because it's all about ME ME ME and to he77 with anyone else.

Bob
 
I would mail it on the last date you could with proof of delivery so you can get a date it was mailed and received and ask them the "SLOWEST" way to get it there ans send it that way.

Then reply to them the "check is in the mail"

It might be worth the 30 dollars NSF fee to make sure it would bounce when he finally got it and tried to cash it!:yum:

tom
 
tommu56 said:
I would mail it on the last date you could with proof of delivery so you can get a date it was mailed and received and ask them the "SLOWEST" way to get it there ans send it that way.

Then reply to them the "check is in the mail"

It might be worth the 30 dollars NSF fee to make sure it would bounce when he finally got it and tried to cash it!:yum:

tom
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And do not sign the check. See if he forges the sig......
 
I was executor of my mother's will (no pay for doing it) one sister really was helpful, my brother at least stayed out of the way but my other sister was just a greedy PITA and we had to hurry up just to get her to shut up.
 
Catavenger said:
I was executor of my mother's will (no pay for doing it) one sister really was helpful, my brother at least stayed out of the way but my other sister was just a greedy PITA and we had to hurry up just to get her to shut up.
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It's a thankless position to be in, but at times it can be better than not being the executor (depending on the siblings involved).
 
either way, when my Grandpap passed, it was hopeless w/ regards to the executor. both my Dad & my aunt turned into money-hungry fools, further than they already were. the family was suddenly @ odds in ways that sickened me.
my already filthy rich aunt, (should say bitch aunt) pounced on the 2 things i wanted the most when she, my brother , my Mom & her got together to discuss the estate. i said i would love the cookbooks so ancient they were crumbling, cookbooks i read over & over again, nightly, for years, from the time i could read, & the clad pots & pans. before i could make a peep. she took the clad & relented on the cookbooks. the bitch previously, though very recently before Pap's passing, stated that she despised cooking & it was obligatory, whereas cooking is my absolute passion. they disappeared, though. during Pap's estate sale, the ladies that were in charge saw nary a cookbook. bwa-ha-ha-ha-ha, tho. i got the most treasured items of any of them- an antique singer sewing machine w/ a note from my deceased Grandma, GM stuff from my Pap, Pap's bowling ball, Pap's table, & moreover, the family pictures. let the money hungry fools have thier dough & thier modes of transportation when they're too old to be driving! i got the treasures. those count. 'kay, wow. great to express that.
 
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