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Stuck in the ditch

tsaw

tsaw

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I just got a cell phone call from my daughter.
She was frantic.. and stuck in the ditch.
Right outside at the road that enters my driveway.
The shoulder goes deep down like 4 feet. The car is sitting there almost ready to roll over. I walk out there and look. NO WAY can it be dug out or pulled out by my Mercury Sabel. So I told her to call a tow truck. She is 18.. and has complained about the ice on the roads the past 2 days. I warned her to slow down. She won't listen.. so she slid into the ditch. I have driven today on that ice... and had zero trouble - because I ajusted my speed to the conditions.
What do ya think? was I mean... or was I teaching her? Cuz in about 2 minutes she is going to come in an bitch and moan like I've never heard it.
 
You are a good dad. You evaluated the situation, determined that no one was hurt and made your child deal with the situation she caused.

Pat on the back to you. (and a little prayer for the tongue lashing you'll get...)
 
All I can do is wish you good luck Tom & as far as I,m concerned the most important thing is She,s safe , just dont over react , kids will be kids . :wink:
 
:agree: You did the right thing. :thumb:
 
tsaw said:
I just got a cell phone call from my daughter.
She was frantic.. and stuck in the ditch.
Right outside at the road that enters my driveway.
The shoulder goes deep down like 4 feet. The car is sitting there almost ready to roll over. I walk out there and look. NO WAY can it be dug out or pulled out by my Mercury Sabel. So I told her to call a tow truck. She is 18.. and has complained about the ice on the roads the past 2 days. I warned her to slow down. She won't listen.. so she slid into the ditch. I have driven today on that ice... and had zero trouble - because I ajusted my speed to the conditions.
What do ya think? was I mean... or was I teaching her? Cuz in about 2 minutes she is going to come in an bitch and moan like I've never heard it.
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Yes, sometimes teenagers need tough love, but ....

Wow. That's tough.
 
Your daughter sounds like my wife...they consider themself the victim of a situation, and look for someone to blame when they refuse to adapt to the environment. My wife recently bitched about getting a ticket for driving 40 in a 25 (which she thinks should NOT be 25), to which I say "you pay the cost to be the boss." You did right to tell her to call (and pay for) a towtruck to remove the car from the ditch. When she has to part with her own money, then hopefully she'll learn to adjust to conditions. If not, it will cost her until she learns.
 
tsaw said:
Cuz in about 2 minutes she is going to come in an bitch and moan like I've never heard it.
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So did she bitch and moan?

You weren't mean per se, and of course you have taught her something.
That said, at 18 my Dad would have done anything possible to help me if I was frantic and stuck in a ditch, then he would have given me 'the talk' later.
 
I don't know about your 18 yr old but when my 19 yr old was 18, it seemed she never missed a beat reminding me she was legally an adult.:furious:

Last December, being 18 and all, she decided not to go back home with us for Christmas. We'd had a big snow. On her first day of independence, she decided she had to have some creamer for the coffee and she set out to pick some up. Before she made it out to the main road, she lost traction and slid off the road. Several neighbors made an attempt to pull her out but she was dug in good and therefore stranded the remainder of the week.

You are teaching your daughter that with priviledge comes responsibility.
Can't have her thinking like big business now, can we? Privatize the profits and socialize the losses...:biggrin:
 
When my oldest boy got stuck in snow the first time I told him he got it in there so he would have to get it out. I just supervised so he did not do major damage. After about 20 minutes he asked me what would I do and was out of the creek shortly after that. I had warned him several times about coming down the hill too fast but he had to experience it himself. Your daughter will learn the smart thing to do is slow down in bad weather.
 
muleman said:
Your daughter will learn the smart thing to do is slow down in bad weather.
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Either that, or become friends with the tow truck operator who will soon separate her from her liquid assets.:whistling:

How's the vehicle look after being pulled out? I'll bet it's not real pretty.
 
I'm a dad of the same attitude. You warned her. You warned her again. She didn't listen. She didn't learn. Now she has to deal with the consequences. Fortunately its only vehicle damage and not a personal injury. Hopefully she will learn from this lesson.

And just to flip things around, what can she expect you to do? Walk out there and lift the car up with your bare hands? You said its beyond being pulled out by your car. That leaves 1 realistic choice. Call the tow truck. Why should YOU be the one who has to call for the hook? She slid, she obviously has a cell phone, she knows how to dial, let her call for the tow to pull her back up on the roadway. She's gonna bitch because YOU didn't dial the phone? Again, flip it back onto her and ask her what exactly you could have done that she couldn't do just as easily? Ask her why her failure to drive to conditions is now YOUR emergency?
 
Melensdad said:
I'm a dad of the same attitude. You warned her. You warned her again. She didn't listen. She didn't learn. Now she has to deal with the consequences. Fortunately its only vehicle damage and not a personal injury. Hopefully she will learn from this lesson.

And just to flip things around, what can she expect you to do? Walk out there and lift the car up with your bare hands? You said its beyond being pulled out by your car. That leaves 1 realistic choice. Call the tow truck. Why should YOU be the one who has to call for the hook? She slid, she obviously has a cell phone, she knows how to dial, let her call for the tow to pull her back up on the roadway. She's gonna bitch because YOU didn't dial the phone? Again, flip it back onto her and ask her what exactly you could have done that she couldn't do just as easily? Ask her why her failure to drive to conditions is now YOUR emergency?
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Quit trying to make sense here. We're dealing with hormone driven female emotions, for which there is no antidote. I know, as I helped raise (paid all the bills for) two daughters, and have lived with the wife for 38+ years. We cannot win regardless of how hard we try. We have a dick, therefore we are WRONG! Ask any woman...
 
From the post title , I expected to find a new Country Western song . It does sound like the good name for one.
 
BigAl said:
From the post title , I expected to find a new Country Western song . It does sound like the good name for one.
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Well Imma stuck in a ditch,
Without a hitch,
Got me a reason to moan and bitch..
My Daddy left me high and dry,
Stuck in a ditch about 4 feet high
He taught me a lesson 'bout wondering why-
.... I got stuck in a ditch cause the road wusn't dry................

<enter banjo and tub thumpin' music>
:brows::smile:
 
:wow::wow:PG, that's a good one. Yep, let her call the truck and pay the bill. Also, you may gently want to remind her that stupid is doing things you know better than to do, and she has to pay the price for it.
 
having been stuck in MANY driveways,many snowbanks...most were my own fault for not driving properly..some were because owners didnt plow their roads(i use to drive delivery)..

glad you made the decision you did, better to hear some bitching than to come out of your pocket the $50-100 that she had to pay...lol

maybe she will learn that hey the corner where i ditched my car is coming up, maybe i should slow down..:yum:
 
ok Pg i'm not steriotyping women drivers but my wife has done that several times and i have always handeled recvery my self the quacks do more damage than it's worth also the cost of recovery comes out of my pocket my oldest daughter is 18 and is very careful the other kids may need a little learning up ido by necessaty drive in some crappy weather and i' fully equiped for it with winch handyman shovel and tire chains and very seldom do i have to use them.
 
You should have had her come into the house, and leave the car where it was overnight and then call a wrecker the next day. That way her friends would see it as well, that will cause a quicker change in driving habits from peer pressure than from parents.

Still, you did good! Not to mention that your daughter is safe!
 
pirate_girl said:
Well Imma stuck in a ditch,
Without a hitch,
Got me a reason to moan and bitch..
My Daddy left me high and dry,
Stuck in a ditch about 4 feet high
He taught me a lesson 'bout wondering why-
.... I got stuck in a ditch cause the road wusn't dry................

<enter banjo and tub thumpin' music>
:brows::smile:
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A poet and didn't know it!
 
Up-date:
After I told her to call a tow truck, which she did, she finally got back on the road. She came in all happy.
WTF? I got spared the ranting -and goofy nonsense about how the slippery roads are to blame?
Here's the real kicker.. One of her best friends.. DAD is a Tow Truck driver:hammer:
I asked her how much it cost? He didn't bill her.

I hope he has plenty of free time:yum::yum::yum:

There was zero damage - cuz it was a matter of going maybe 20 MPH too fast, on ice.. and sliding on the ice, missing the turn off the road. Thus sliding off into the deep shoulder just past my driveway.

The road is still glare ice, in that same spot. (WHERE ARE THE SANDING TRUCKS) And she has driven in and out of the driveway without going off the road. So maybe she did learn something about slowing down.
 
dds said:
ok Pg i'm not steriotyping women drivers but my wife has done that several times and i have always handeled recvery my self the quacks do more damage than it's worth also the cost of recovery comes out of my pocket my oldest daughter is 18 and is very careful the other kids may need a little learning up ido by necessaty drive in some crappy weather and i' fully equiped for it with winch handyman shovel and tire chains and very seldom do i have to use them.
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I have also nearly wiped out on icy and snowy roads myself.
Thing is, for some reason I have this thing where I turn the wheel in the opposite direction and somehow, it corrects itself. I've been lucky.

Tom is lucky that the tow truck driver didn't charge her.
I have only needed a tow once, and back then they expected a check or cash on the spot. Goes to show how long it's been.

Sounds as though your daughter has some snowcat/snowy road knowledge in her and a Dad who would be there to help her in a heartbeat.
 
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