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[fruit-basket]

As someone who likes both men and women, I can say personality matters in both. Dont want a woman to be an asshole but not a man to be one either.

 

[Melensdad]

As someone who likes both men and women, I can say personality matters in both. Dont want a woman to be an asshole but not a man to be one either.

Does anyone really like to be in a relationship with an asshole?

As a high school coach I talk to a lot of kids about relationships and I generally advise that they just need to let love happen. So many are attracted to a specific body type, specific hair color, etc. They say I want a "....." and I say you may find love, respect and friendship by accident, with someone that you would not "pick" based on looks or hair color or whatever.

 

[BlackpillRevolution]

I'm an asshole so what. If a person lies I get pissed. Over the years it really didn't bother me but that i guess inside anger built for many decades. Now I get so pissed. Women are so delusional. They want you to cook and clean and bring in a lot of money. Single mothers are worse. Just recently a woman claiming to wanting to be friends only ended trying if we match as a couple. She didn't want to cook or clean. She lied in profile claiming to be single when is separated for 12 years. Some women are so desperate they have to make up lies so men will contact them. She is attractive for her age but her conversation skills and personality sucks besides the lying. She claimed to enjoyed our conversation. What a retard. She is so lazy she can't even have decent conservation skills. This chick will never get a man unless it's for sex.

 

[pirate_girl]

I'm an asshole so what. If a person lies I get pissed. Over the years it really didn't bother me but that i guess inside anger built for many decades. Now I get so pissed. Women are so delusional. They want you to cook and clean and bring in a lot of money. Single mothers are worse. Just recently a woman claiming to wanting to be friends only ended trying if we match as a couple. She didn't want to cook or clean. She lied in profile claiming to be single when is separated for 12 years. Some women are so desperate they have to make up lies so men will contact them. She is attractive for her age but her conversation skills and personality sucks besides the lying. She claimed to enjoyed our conversation. What a retard. She is so lazy she can't even have decent conservation skills. This chick will never get a man unless it's for sex.

Damn.

 

[fruit-basket]

I'm an asshole so what. If a person lies I get pissed. Over the years it really didn't bother me but that i guess inside anger built for many decades. Now I get so pissed. Women are so delusional. They want you to cook and clean and bring in a lot of money. Single mothers are worse. Just recently a woman claiming to wanting to be friends only ended trying if we match as a couple. She didn't want to cook or clean. She lied in profile claiming to be single when is separated for 12 years. Some women are so desperate they have to make up lies so men will contact them. She is attractive for her age but her conversation skills and personality sucks besides the lying. She claimed to enjoyed our conversation. What a retard. She is so lazy she can't even have decent conservation skills. This chick will never get a man unless it's for sex.

Well... you've had some tough experiences havent you

 

[BlackpillRevolution]

Well... you've had some tough experiences havent you

I have PSTD and COVID made it 100 worse and top of that I may have brain cancer. This woman already knew this and claim to be empathic but clearly not because she was still see if I was a suitable match for a relationship within 7 days. A sad woman. She is from Spain, a single mother so matching interest wouldn't do any good. She wanted an Asian man because no man in her country want to deal with her. She saw an asian man white female video and she wanted that but those Asian guys are dating and marrying single young women not some single mother that in her late 40's.

She had the first forum post to get my attention because i didn't contact her for a few days. She read the forum posts I made where i debated a woman and she didn't like that because we were going back and forth. The woman i was debating was getting angry although I was simply disagreeing with her. She said i had bad vibes because of that so i don't understand why she made the only forum post she ever made to get my attention. She claimed she enjoyed our conversation but she respected herself. When she couldn't even respect me from the beginning. I told her I didn't enjoy the interview style questions and I asked her if she was trying to use me because that's what it is like. Just like she wanted to use men if they were willing to cook and clean for her.

 

[fruit-basket]

I have PSTD and COVID made it 100 worse and top of that I may have brain cancer. This woman already knew this and claim to be empathic but clearly not because she was still see if I was a suitable match for a relationship within 7 days. A sad woman. She is from Spain, a single mother so matching interest wouldn't do any good. She wanted an Asian man because no man in her country want to deal with her. She saw an asian man white female video and she wanted that but those Asian guys are dating and marrying single young women not some single mother that in her late 40's.

She had the first forum post to get my attention because i didn't contact her for a few days. She read the forum posts I made where i debated a woman and she didn't like that because we were going back and forth. The woman i was debating was getting angry although I was simply disagreeing with her. She said i had bad vibes because of that so i don't understand why she made the only forum post she ever made to get my attention. She claimed she enjoyed our conversation but she respected herself. When she couldn't even respect me from the beginning. I told her I didn't enjoy the interview style questions and I asked her if she was trying to use me because that's what it is like. Just like she wanted to use men if they were willing to cook and clean for her.

As someone who has diagnosed PTSD from relationships (family, not romantic), I feel you. But one person isnt the majority. I had to learn that the hard way. I hope you can too.

 

[BlackpillRevolution]

As someone who has diagnosed PTSD from relationships (family, not romantic), I feel you. But one person isnt the majority. I had to learn that the hard way. I hope you can too.

I was part of the manosphere. it's not one experience. Well i wasn't in love with this woman.


"
"Seriously, there are huge numbers of young women out there who know how to mix cocktails but can't cook to save their lives, whereas men are finding their way into the kitchen in ever growing numbers."

"Trust me, I am only telling you what I have discovered."


"A lot of husbands come and say they do all the cooking because their wives can't cook."
article written in 2005.

BBC NEWS | UK | 'Women can't cook' claims Ramsay

news.bbc.co.uk

 

[Wicker0]

I believe that the main thing a girl is looking for in a man is the feeling of safety around him. At least, that's what my girlfriend says, and I think that's actually true. As for me, even when I was looking at girls on xxxx, I searched for cute girls instead of hot and mature ones, and I think it's because I want someone to take care of, and unconsciously, chose women like that. My girlfriend is the definition of cuteness, so we're perfect for each other.

 

[FrancSevin]

I believe that the main thing a girl is looking for in a man is the feeling of safety around him. At least, that's what my girlfriend says, and I think that's actually true. As for me, even when I was looking at girls on xxxx, I searched for cute girls instead of hot and mature ones, and I think it's because I want someone to take care of, and unconsciously, chose women like that. My girlfriend is the definition of cuteness, so we're perfect for each other.

I agree.
Men need to understand that the biggest fear a woman has in a new relationship is "him! "

To some women that excitement is a draw. Those are the ones from which it is a good idea to stay away, because they haven't the sense God gave geese and will always seem to be intrigued by the excitement and danger of a dalliance.

 

[Nort Woods]

Obviously, a persons looks are the first thing that attracts someone. The rest falls into place after you have met them and have spent some time with them. Having conversations with them and getting to know them better.
At that point, is when you start to form an opinion of them and determine your likes and dislikes. I have met women that caught my eye as they were cute, sexy or knock out smoking, only to find out, after having a conversation with them their personality or direction in life is different than what I was looking for.
Men and women alike, both want security in life. Money (many times, but not always) means stability and stability means security. Gold diggers come in all shapes, sizes and genders. What I am saying is that you will find both, men and women want their partners to be good looking, be financially stable and secure.
Best of luck to everyone.

Nort Woods

 

[FrancSevin]

Obviously, a persons looks are the first thing that attracts someone. The rest falls into place after you have met them and have spent some time with them. Having conversations with them and getting to know them better.
At that point, is when you start to form an opinion of them and determine your likes and dislikes. I have met women that caught my eye as they were cute, sexy or knock out smoking, only to find out, after having a conversation with them their personality or direction in life is different than what I was looking for.
Men and women alike, both want security in life. Money (many times, but not always) means stability and stability means security. Gold diggers come in all shapes, sizes and genders. What I am saying is that you will find both, men and women want their partners to be good looking, be financially stable and secure.
Best of luck to everyone.

Nort Woods

I cannot disagree with your points. However,,,;
Security, good looks and financial stability??? They sure take the mystery and romance out of the equation.

My search never included finances. Mostly because I was from poverty and money meant little to me. Cathy was 4 years younger and just as poor. I never realized what a beauty she was until my guy friends told me. All I ever saw was her eyes. All I ever cared about was the obvious sincerity of her heart.
She seemed to just want an honest guy who actually cared for her.

We have been soulmates for 55 years.

She is still a beauty. Me, not so much

 

[Nort Woods]

I cannot disagree with your points. However,,,;
Security, good looks and financial stability??? They sure take the mystery and romance out of the equation.

My search never included finances. Mostly because I was from poverty and money meant little to me. Cathy was 4 years younger and just as poor. I never realized what a beauty she was until my guy friends told me. All I ever saw was her eyes. All I ever cared about was the obvious sincerity of her heart.
She seemed to just want an honest guy who actually cared for her.

We have been soulmates for 55 years.

She is still a beauty. Me, not so much

You are fortunate to find some that was so good for you (and you for her!). Things are quite different these days, that’s why I view things the way I do. Not that it’s bad or good one way or the other. I feel that what people found important in a relationship 30 - 40 years ago does not really stand today.
Nort Woods

 

[FrancSevin]

You are fortunate to find some that was so good for you (and you for her!). Things are quite different these days, that’s why I view things the way I do. Not that it’s bad or good one way or the other. I feel that what people found important in a relationship 30 - 40 years ago does not really stand today.
Nort Woods

I will respectfully disagree. You make it sound impossible or unlikely to find happiness in today's world.
It's not a matter of luck. It takes hard work.

Moral standards are a constant. Time does not change them. People do change, yes. Society changes as well. But a good partner is still possible. Unless you lower your standards, you can end up with one.

Back in my day, there were plenty of bad fish in the pond. Easy pickings; bad endings.
I was fortunate, yes. But I was also choosy.

It takes two to tango. But to do it well takes more than just moving well with your partner. You must also move for you partner. If you make every move in their best interest, and they do the same, ; mmm Happiness.

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. It takes effort and commitment.

I sometimes make my life with Cathy sound like a fairy tale. It wasn't always so. Like any couple together over 55 years, we had some bad times. Some really bad times. But with effort and concern for each other's happiness over our own, we made it work. And it is awesome.

Luck & good fortune, had little to do with it.