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OK, I am opening up here and its tough.

Ray

Ray

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As many of you know my Momma passed away a couple of years ago. Per her wishes she was cremated. I bought one the the best Urns they had for her. I brought Momma home with me, she stays in my office. I cannot bear to bring her to some cold place in a crypt somewhere. I speak to her often even thought its just an Urn containing her ashes. It gives me some strange sort of comfort knowing she is at home with our family. I feel like she is still with us. I know its probably not the best thing to do, but it seems right to me.
Any thoughts on this issue?:sad:
 
None from me other than I wanted to cremate my daughter when she died but due to the wishes of her children I didn't. At any rate when I go I want to also be cremated and at that point couldn't care less what happens to the ashes of my remains. If it gives you some relief from your loss then so be it and I for one find nothing wrong with it.
 
Sounds comforting Ray. :thumb: We all handle this kind of stuff in our own way. This works for you and that is what counts.
 
I see no problem with what you've done. If it works for you, cool.

I too lost my mom a few years ago. She told me she's coming back as a Canadian Goose. To this day, when they fly overhead, I bring her to mind and say "Hi Mom.".
 
I don't have much to add to what others have said but I'll consolidate it. If it gives you comfort that's all that matters.
 
Ray said:
As many of you know my Momma passed away a couple of years ago. Per her wishes she was cremated. I bought one the the best Urns they had for her. I brought Momma home with me, she stays in my office. I cannot bear to bring her to some cold place in a crypt somewhere. I speak to her often even thought its just an Urn containing her ashes. It gives me some strange sort of comfort knowing she is at home with our family. I feel like she is still with us. I know its probably not the best thing to do, but it seems right to me.
Any thoughts on this issue?:sad:
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Sure do have some thoughts.
I have my late hubby's ashes.
He passed in August '02.
They are sitting in the back bedroom beside the bed, and there they shall stay until I go. Then he goes in with me.:wink:
Sounds weird to some, but hey.. that was my decision.
If having her remains with you brings you comfort, then that's a good thing, Ray.
 
Shoot Ray , I talk with my Mom daily and she left us back in 1995 . I still use her wisdom that she instills in me each day . Its funny, but talking with her can calm me right down and make me reason anything out . She is still the boss .:smile: God Bless Mamas!!!!
 
can't add much more than what has been said, but absolutely agree with what has been said. nothing wrong whatsoever.

And it sure sounds like it is the best thing...
 
I held each of my sons ashes for a few years until I felt the time was right to scatter them in places they each enjoyed while of this world. How a person handles their grief and the ashes is an individual choice and only they can make it. My mom's ashes were scattered on the beach and in the ocean as that was her wishes.:flowers:
 
lol, wow. you all make me seem like I'm a cold heartless person.

to me, the person is gone when they die. What's left is just an empty "bottle".
 
SShepherd said:
lol, wow. you all make me seem like I'm a cold heartless person.

to me, the person is gone when they die. What's left is just an empty "bottle".
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funny you mention it that way but my dad isn't doing too good and mom's no younger now this thread has made me think what if it happens to me how will i handle it
 
Whatever works for you is great. When my son died in 2009 we had him cremated and I spread his ashes on his favorite hunting and fishing places, makes me feel closer when I do our favorite things.
 
RAY, you do what ever you want. and latter on in your life ,IF you feel different you can always do some thing different with the Urns and her remains. seems OK to me.
 
You know, if having the ashes close to you keeps you in contact for a person that has taken a new journey, then more power to you!

It's really no one else's business how you deal with your loss and the way you deal with it.

You'll see her again in due time anyway.

When my mother passed away in 1985, I didn't want to see her before they sealed the casket, all these years later I regret not seeing her for the last time almost daily. But she was thousands of miles whe she died and I knew that instant when she stopped by to tell me she was off on the new adventure, I just didn't realize that at the moment. I still talk to her often and am comfortable with that! Time here is fleeting and I will see her soon enough!
 
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