Need advice

[Sarge7]

I'm a Veteran with a few issue, I'm recovering from rectal cancer and have been sober over 7 yrs.
I've struggled with jealousy problems my whole life. I thought I had it under control but lately it has been rearing its ugly head.
I know jealousy will lead eventually, back into the bottom of a bottle. I DON'T WANT THAT LIFE AGAIN!!. My self esteem is very low because after 3 surgeries my body is pretty scarred. And as a result I have erectile dysfunction. I don't think it is permanent but I struggle with feeling like a " man".
4 months ago I started dated my hs sweetheart after 40 yrs!! She is definitely a keeper and understands my ed problem. I don't want to disrespect her with jealousy. Any advice will help

 

[FrancSevin]

ED is not a problem. It is an obstacle. Lovers can get past it because they want the best for their partner.

I too have ED. After 25 years with a woman suffering from intimacy anorexia, The pavlovic response to her rejection was rather permanent.

Once she realized the pain she was causing in her selfishness, things got better.

It is not penetrative sex that brings couples happiness but authentic intimacy, In fact the physical sex you both may have wanted in High School is unlikely to be what she wants today. Likely you both cannot go there so stop the worry.

If she wants you, she will make you feel like a man, whatever it may take.

Authenticity is a closeness beyond belief. Been there and doing that. Best relationship the wife and I ever had.
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Again my advice is free and worth every penny.

 

[Sarge7]

Thank you. The problem isn't with her she is very supportive. It my own thoughts and opinions of myself that get me into the poor me poor me pity party.

 

[Sarge7]

Thank you

 

[Misa]

My self esteem is very low because after 3 surgeries my body is pretty scarred. And as a result I have erectile dysfunction. I don't think it is permanent but I struggle with feeling like a " man". 6 months ago I started dated my hs sweetheart after 40 yrs!! She is definitely a keeper and understands my ed problem. I don't want to disrespect her with jealousy. Any advice will help

Look at the parts of your comment I put in bold. Despite what you say here, this woman - who was someone from your distant past that came back into your life just recently - actually likes your company, understands your emotional issues and your health issues as well, and is obviously attracted to you physically in some capacity or else she would not be dating you for half a year, isn't it so?

The Universe has placed this kind soul into your life experience to help you grow and learn emotionally and spiritually. Even if you don't think you are a spiritual person, you need to know that we ALL are spiritual beings who have willingly come to earth to have a human experience.

Your selflessness, integrity and stellar character trait for wanting to respect this nice woman and for wanting to continue to work on your self-esteem and self-worth means you are spiritually ascending and improving your life incrementally - one day at a time (sometimes one hour at a time...but, we do what we can, when we can).




If you stay on this path, I see your life unfolding the way you want it to...just not in the way you expect it to.

~ Namaste

 

[echo]

Don't sweat the things beyond your control

 

[Mikemoto46]

Don't Worry About This . Everything Will be Fine. Just Believe Yourself.

 

[PGBC]

Be kind, not jealous.
Assuming your hands and tongue still work, you can pleasure her sexually, so no worries.