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My Sister Julie

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To cut to the chase.
My sister is soon to be gone from stage 4 bone cancer.
Since my Mother died, she and I became distanced and lost touch.
( I have been talking about this with a few members on here since all this came about)

I have attempted several times over the last two years to get closer with her and have shared that here and there on this forum, although vaguely and not wanting to go into detail)

There was always an excuse of her being busy, I don't have time, WE are doing this or that.
It was only very recently that I even found out that she was terminal.
So I have been trying to do anything I can to at least see her before she goes.

My BIL and his mother have been pains in the ass since a week ago last Sunday when I attended a church benefit for her.
Not a single member of MY family were there, it was all his side.
His Mother came up to me and asked me where I have been all this time, but trying to explain to her was like talking to a damn brick wall.

My son Jeff has been well aware of all this going on and he suggested I just back off and wait.
Wait for what?
To add further to the god damn drama, my brother and his wife (whom I also have not ever been close to) showed up where I work today.
That is where the I don't want to talk about it comes into play.
I have felt sick, pissed off and confused ever since.
You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family.

Really, I don't know what the end is going to be in all this, but I have planned to go and see her with Jeff tomorrow.
It all comes down to my son being with me and understanding exactly what is going on.
I need someone strong at my side because I don't have any other options.
 
Went thru similar situation with a sister-inlaw and being uncomfortable in the family mix only makes the tragedy of a loved one with stage 4 cancer even worse.

Prayers for your sister, the entire family and especially for you. How old is sis? Too young I'm sure.

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Sorry to hear all this PG. Good thoughts and prayers for you sister and all of her family.
Tough situation. I'm dealing with a similar one, and there are no easy or obvious answer. All the Best!
 
Thanks guys.
Lots of love shared today- no discussing the why's of this or that, just a lot of kisses, hugs and more.
And a big feeling of relief.
It was a good visit, just myself, Jeff, she and her hubby at the house.

Thanks for the replies.
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I am glad that my brother and I were getting along when he died (we fought like cats and dogs as children.) It's important that you be with her; all the best.
 
pirate_girl said:
Thanks guys.
Lots of love shared today- no discussing the why's of this or that, just a lot of kisses, hugs and more.
And a big feeling of relief.
It was a good visit, just myself, Jeff, she and her hubby at the house.

Thanks for the replies.
Nothing more will be added to this thread.
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PG, Is this not about you and your ill sister?

Then, the rest of the family can go to Hades for now. Concentrate on seeing her at all costs. The other relatives can figure out later how to properly behave.

Just my two cents but you only get one shot at this. Focus on the two humans involved, family blood, that matter. You and her have history before the split. Your connection to her goes too far back not to try.
I see that things are better but time will pass and so will emotions. Hope there are no bumps but....

You don't have to please anybody. Matters of this sort should never be about that.


Continue to take the time left to put her and you into parenthesis.
If it ever fails, pray for her. You, will be fine.

franc
 
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