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REDDOGTWO

Unemployed Veg. Peddler
I usually do not share my personal life on line either here nor anywhere else. But sometimes you must so that people really know how short life can be.

From November 3, 2012 to January 3, 2013 I have lost five relatives.

A 66 year old brother in law to cancer which was the other half's brother, a 59 year old female cousin to cancer and a 61 year old male cousin to loss of organ function mainly the liver. These three were in a two week period starting the third of November.

At the end of December I lost my last remaining aunt at the age of 86, her husband is the last remaining in law uncle or aunt. She was the youngest of nine on my Mothers side. All of the four on my Dads side have been gone for quite a spell. My cousin, her second oldest son died on the third of this month. Ray was 61, he had had an brain clot while on the job about twenty years ago and the steroids really put the weight on him died form congestive heart failure. From someone that used to do the ski patrol and blow up the snow to someone who was quite overweight he never lost his infectious happy personality. His family visiting on the farm while growing up, elk hunting with him in Montana, his family visiting here and in Florida and visiting him in Washington all are cherished memories.

In addition to this the other half lost a 55 year old female cousin to cancer last June.

Made it to all of the funerals except the last two which are in Washington state.

This leaves one uncle left out of twenty two aunts and uncles, parents gone, a sister husband gone, one brother gone out of six siblings, four first cousins gone out eighteen and one nephew gone out of eleven nephews and nieces.

As a kid growing up my Mother's side of the family used to have a family picnic with over a hundred people showing up each year. I can only think of about two of those still around from the previous generation.

Life is to short, we should enjoy what we have left of it.
 
I have always been a believer in treat them right while you can. There is no set length of life on this side of the grass. Sorry you have been hit so hard in such a short time.:flowers:
 
Life is to short, we should enjoy what we have left of it.

Wise words Reddog.
My Condolences for all those who passed.

Tomorrow is no guarantee for any of us; so we must do the best we can today for all those we have contact with.
 
Like you, I don't share too much of my personal life on the internet except in a superficial way but this post struck home.

Just last week I lost one of my good friends to cancer. He's been suffering for a while so in some ways it was a blessing. It got me to thinking. I'm 65 years old and in the last two years I have lost most of my good friends from one cause or another. I mean the kind of friends where you wander up unannounced and spend the afternoon drinking coffee and BSing on the porch or drop by to help for a few hours with their latest project or diversion. I've still got a lot of acquaintances but my good friends are getting really thin on the ground. There's only a couple left.

Did I let the ones that I lost know that I appreciated their friendship, their advice, their support and their help when I needed it? I don't know. It was one of those guy things, the friendship and the trust was there but remained unspoken. Anyway I resolved to let the two good buddies I have left know how much I appreciated them.

Getting old is a real bitch not just for all the aches and pains that come with it but for the void that losing friends and relatives leave in your life.
 
My last remaining uncle finally called today. His son Ray who just died suffered from cancer, and that is what go him.

That makes four of the six due to cancer. Cancer claimed my Dad when I was nine and they were working on a cure back then. Longevity has increased but no cure. The other half's brother had kidney cancer about fourteen or fifteen years ago, they took the kidney and it comes back and gets him.

There is a member in the farmers market who has had it three times, so it is just a matter of time for him.

It is one of the thinks that life style has something to do with it, but not all.
 
As a kid growing up my Mother's side of the family used to have a family picnic with over a hundred people showing up each year. I can only think of about two of those still around from the previous generation.

Life is to short, we should enjoy what we have left of it.

Odd coincidence. My wife andi spent yesterday going thru old photos of our families. Gatherings at reunions,weddings and such. I remember them thru the eyes of a child. Not for their importance in my life but but from the excitment of those events ad times. Excpt for her father, all are gone now. (he is 89)

We took for granted, that the sources of such innocence, comfort, and joy would always be with us. But as you have said,"life is short."

And so for now,the family picnics are for the progeny. Their moment to learn the importance of family, heritage, traditions, lessons of life, and how to skip rocks on the park pond.

I would suggest it is important for them to enjoy such gatherings. And bittersweet as they sometimes are, you will too.
 
I feel your pain Reddogtwo. I've lost my father-in-law, brother-in-law and cousin all in the last year or so. Life is way to short.
 
REDDOGTWO

You've certainly had more on your plate than most. Take care of your self as well as others. Don't forget yourself in all of this.

I too am at the age where I have lost my mother and some friends, and realise this is the start of the slow process of getting older...and loosing what will become most of my friends and family. We all go through this if we live long enough.

We don't get to pick the day, nor the method of our demise. But with faith, I don't think it really matters. Keep your faith...

Regards, Kirk
 
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