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I lost someone today

rc2james

rc2james

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My little brother (three years my junior) was injured in a hunting accident almost 15 years ago and has been in a nursing home ever since. He was stuck in the back of the head by a 22 caliber round fired from his own gun when it fell where he had rested it.

His recovery left him in a wheel chair requiring 24 hour a day care. He was like a bird in a cage, able to recognize and knowing all of the family but unable to speak or move anything on his right side.

He contracted sepsis about 4 days ago and today, I held his hand when the machines were shut off and he stepped into the next life. His wife and five mostly adult children were there but didn’t want to be in the room when he passed. After all these years, the caged bird is free to sail on the wind, to adventures that we see only in our dreams.

Life is a fleeting thing, which can change in a heartbeat. Worry not what others have but be thankful for what you do have.
 
sorry to hear of your families loss. i am sure he will be missed greatly but is in a better happier place for him. lots of good thoughts coming from our family to yours
 
I'm sad to hear about your loss but, you know, sometimes there is a better place to go and a time to go there. You and your family will be in our prayers.
 
We are sorry for your loss. Prayers for strength and understanding for you and the family. He is happier now I believe.
 
I'm sorry. After that phrase, I run out of words, because none "fix" the feelings of loss.

HIS eye is on the sparrow, HE's watching over you and your family at this time. Be assured of that, my friend.
 
Thank you my friends for the outpouring of sympathy.

For people like me, without any medical training, my brother’s ordeal has been quite a learning experience.

Early on, we learned what many relatives of traumatic brain injury patients have gone through, with the hope that a miracle recovery could happen and the gradual realization that it isn’t going to happen.

As advanced as the hospital that he was treated in, and as skilled as the doctors were, brains can’t be fixed once badly damaged.

We then learned the difficulties of caring for someone with out the ability to speak, and has no movement on their right side. Who cannot walk or eve feed himself.

I learned an immeasurable amount of respect for the employees of nursing homes that care for those who cannot care for themselves. They are the true angels that walk among us.

We learned what sepsis was and that many who contract it are those who have reduced immune systems and just how fast it can destroy an already weakened individual’s vital organs.
I learned that life is fleeting but love is forever. Once again, that you my friends for being friends.
 
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