i have a beautiful daughter 'a gun a shovel and an alibi

[Snowtrac Nome]

I got a call from my wife at 4 o clock this morning said she was leaving work, and I need to get dressed she was picking me up. the rest of the story follows, on the way out to where my step daughter lives she informs me about the phone call she received from the new boytoy and how our daughter broke out a window. on arrival we found this kid laying on the floor in a fetal position un able to breath, and broken glass every where. supposedly boy toy told us she freaked out an started breaking windows. this put me on high alert as she just turned 18. alcohol might have been involved. I took the boy to the e-r .I knew the doctor on call told him of some rumors I had heard. and than had him give me a call once they were done with him so I could give him a ride home. an hour later I find the stepdaughter on the way into town picked her up dropped her off at home sounded sober looked the part and no smell of grass. doc calls says the boy is ready to pick up he made it well known I can't look over his shoulder at the test results than officially informs me that if he was dating his daughter he would tie the pussie into a pretzel. this guy could do it he is an ex seal and marine recon. he also fights mma. when everybody wakes up we are going to have a talk. I would like my step daughter to make the right decision before, I go over and convince this walking hard on he needs to stay away from my family. unfortunately he is a grand son of a good friend and i'm now wondering how to break this news to him his wife has just been diagnosed with cancer.

 

[Doc]

Geesh, oh geesh .... All I can say is I'm glad my daughters are well past the teen age years. No easy answers and no matter what you do it can backfire on you.
Good luck Don.

 

[Dargo]

Gees, sounds like a bad situation. Four days after my middle daughter turned 18 she ran off with a 21 year old who had been expelled from high school since he was 15, could never pass the GED test and never had a job yet. I couldn't explain that, as the valedictorian of her high school of 2100 students, she couldn't possibly make a worse decision. However, since she had passed that magic age of 18, there was nothing I could do. From this point, I'll just call him Dickhead since this is available to the public to read.

For almost a year my daughter stayed with Dickhead in the basement of a relative. During that time I discovered that he had 4 convictions of battery with bodily injury; all on females. He convinced her to lie on the final paperwork for her full ride college scholarship and, obviously, she got caught doing so and lost her entire scholarship. I refused to pay for her college; which was very hard for me to do but I was advised to do so from every professional I spoke with. Then, Dickhead gets arrested for another battery with bodily injury on a female. It was not on my daughter, but on some girl he got knocked up while my daughter was living with him and she refused to get an abortion. Since the assault was on a McDonald's security camera footage, he is found guilty on that case as well. Still the judge of Warrick Co., IN only gives him probation; again!

Finally Dickhead sends me a threatening text that was also, well, let's just say was very rude as well. I found Dickhead, much to his surprise, and had him explain to my daughter all he had been lying to her about. (His alternative was not going to be as pleasant). Finally, my daughter moves away from him and gets a restraining order against him. Unfortunately, she moved in with "a friend, and her boyfriend" who lives in the basement of her grandmother's (her mother tossed her). Now my daughter has multiple facial piercings and is dumbfounded as to why she can only land minimum wage jobs. She is taking 1 (one) college class and is driving my Jeep, which I am just about ready to take from her because she just refused to pay for the insurance for the Jeep after I'm paying for the plates, registration and all maintenance costs along with the cost of new tires.

Clearly I failed in bringing my daughter back to reality. I don't know if taking her wheels away from her will help, or just have her find another scumbag to live with or date who will let her drive something. And, to think, she was voted 'most likely to succeed' in her high school class because of her perfect grades and extremely high SAT score. I feel that I've failed in some way and I can't chance doing to someone else what I did to Dickhead. I sure wish I had some answer for you, but I clearly do not.

 

[Snowtrac Nome]

this time she seems to be listening she has dumped her Dickhead Moved back to the house. wife had to follow me when I took her out to get her stuff. Seems she wigged out when I grabbed my de50 on the way out of the house. I left the thing in the truck I only wanted it close not knowing what kind of situation I may be going into. Turns out I found out last night I know Dickheads grand parents, who raised him and out of respect to their family I wasn't going to turn him into a pretzel. I did share what I had over heard the medical staff tell him with them. turns out the kid also has a heart condition that junk could have killed him.

 

[Danang Sailor]

Snowy, it sounds as if your daughter is able to see what is really happening. Give her all the support you can without
smothering her - a fine line to be sure - and hope she stays eyes-open with the creep. That's about all you can do.

Dargo, we don't believe you've failed in any way; sometimes the kids are going to go in the wrong direction no matter how
good a job the parents have done. We had some heartbreaking stuff with our oldest son when he was in his teens, but now
that he's in his 30's he is beginning to turn his life around. Due to the medical stuff he'll always have some problems that
his typical peers don't, but he is rejoining the human race. Hang in there, and don't blame yourself for her bad choices.
It's her problem, not yours ... as hard as it is to deal with that, she is the one who will have to fix things.

Best wishes sent to you both; we know how hard this can be.