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How Does One Get Sexually Aroused By A Virgin?

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My new gf who I have been seeing for a few weeks now, recently told me she was. We haven't been sexually active yet and were going to be. But now that she told me, I find myself failing to get aroused by her sexually now, somewhat.

I mean for some reason the thought of having sex with a virgin is kind of a turn off, but I cannot put into words why. It shouldn't matter, and it doesn't seem logical why, but I just feel that my d$#k is just being shallow about it and it needs to be more open minded. But is there anything I can do to change my view on it when it comes to arousal if that makes sense?

Thank you very any input on it! I really appreciate it!
 
Overthinking it. If you care for her and her for you, make out with her and let nature take its course. Most feel lucky that a girl would choose you to be her first. Just do it.
 
It doesn't matter if she is a virgin, or had sex with 1,000 people before.
Don't expect some wild sex romp with a virgin, its her first time, be gentle, and patient.
Help her learn, do a little coaching, but most of all make her feel comfortable above all else, and don't rush.
If you are too immature as a person to be able to do that, best leave her a virgin, and go do some growing up, then look for a new girlfriend once you can handle a mature relationship.
 
Well I want to do that and want to be patient and coaching with her. But I am having trouble getting sexually aroused. I really like her and care for her, but my little head, so to speak, can only seem to get aroused by the idea of an experienced woman it seems.

What do I do in that case? I talked to a friend about this and he said I should feel lucky as well, and I know I'm lucky. But there is a difference between feeling lucky and feeling aroused though, and I guess I don't find lucky arousing. But is there something wrong with me?

I know it doesn't matter that she is a virgin but my penis doesn't seem to care, and is only aroused by the experienced type, even though it shouldn't matter. What do I do then?

Years ago, when I was a virgin, I was rejected because I was and the women were turned off by it. So is it now a case, of me being in that opposite position now, where I feel the same way they did, when it comes to a virgin?
 
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Oh but I really like her and feel my penis is being shallow though, and I should want to have sex with someone I really like regardless of their sexual experience level, shouldn't I?
 
Just make sure she’s ready, physically first ……. Ok, I’ll say it! Aroused and wet 😏 that will help you too!
 
Ironpony said:
My new gf who I have been seeing for a few weeks now, recently told me she was. We haven't been sexually active yet and were going to be. But now that she told me, I find myself failing to get aroused by her sexually now, somewhat.

I mean for some reason the thought of having sex with a virgin is kind of a turn off, but I cannot put into words why. It shouldn't matter, and it doesn't seem logical why, but I just feel that my d$#k is just being shallow about it and it needs to be more open minded. But is there anything I can do to change my view on it when it comes to arousal if that makes sense?

Thank you very any input on it! I really appreciate it!
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I think you are 'turned off' out of respect for her virginity and that is something you might want to tell her so you can both work together for you to get turned back on and for her to enjoy her first experience.
 
Oh okay. Well I thought it was the virginity that was keeping me from getting aroused, and not her though. But I am not a psychological expert on how it works of course.

I didn't mean to give the impression I didn't want to answer anything. What did I not answer?
 
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Do you think maybe it's a fetish and I can only get aroused if I have that certain fetish maybe? Therefore I'm not aroused by the person but by the fetish maybe?

In this case the fetish being a sexually experienced woman?
 
Ironpony said:
My new gf who I have been seeing for a few weeks now, recently told me she was. We haven't been sexually active yet and were going to be. But now that she told me, I find myself failing to get aroused by her sexually now, somewhat.

I mean for some reason the thought of having sex with a virgin is kind of a turn off, but I cannot put into words why. It shouldn't matter, and it doesn't seem logical why, but I just feel that my d$#k is just being shallow about it and it needs to be more open minded. But is there anything I can do to change my view on it when it comes to arousal if that makes sense?

Thank you very any input on it! I really appreciate it!
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Wait…….what? Um……..wait………what? I‘m fairly certain that you are way over thinking this. Go out and spend time together and enjoy each other’s company. You’ll probably soon realize what attracted you to her in the first place. Give your relationship a chance to develop and grow. Good luck.
 
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Well I want to do that and want to be patient and coaching with her. But I am having trouble getting sexually aroused. I really like her and care for her, but my little head, so to speak, can only seem to get aroused by the idea of an experienced woman it seems.

What do I do in that case? I talked to a friend about this and he said I should feel lucky as well, and I know I'm lucky. But there is a difference between feeling lucky and feeling aroused though, and I guess I don't find lucky arousing. But is there something wrong with me?

I know it doesn't matter that she is a virgin but my penis doesn't seem to care, and is only aroused by the experienced type, even though it shouldn't matter. What do I do then?

Years ago, when I was a virgin, I was rejected because I was and the women were turned off by it. So is it now a case, of me being in that opposite position now, where I feel the same way they did, when it comes to a virgin?
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Regardless of what you believe, it is you that controls ALL thought processes that you have. Your penis does not have the ability to "think". It is you that has reservations or mental blockages of becoming intimate with a woman who chose YOU as her very first sexual partner.

This woman is probably already self-conscious of the fact that she is a virgin - and she knows the stigma that a lot of people have created around this very personal and sensitive topic. She should not be made to feel ashamed for the fact that she has not become sexually intimate with anyone out of personal choice...and yet, if she remains with the OP, she will (if she hasn't already) begin to sense and feel that she is somehow defective, is doing something wrong, or is unattractive to him. She should not involve herself with someone who is actually repulsed by her chastity and is unable to mentally get past it.

It is probably best for this woman if you part company with her, so that she will be available to find a guy who will become sexually aroused to her personality, to her physicality and to the fact that he was specifically chosen by her to be the one to provide this woman with her first positive sexual experience.

This will be the best outcome for you as well, so you can be available to find sexual intimacy with sexually experienced women - thereby removing the frustration, repulsion and reservation that you currently have towards becoming intimate with this woman.

There is nothing wrong with you. You simply have sexual preferences that are truly not in alignment with this woman's sexual preferences. It happens.

Do not force that which is not meant to be.

This situation will culminate in the best possible outcome that will serve your highest good; and hers also.


Good luck & be well!
 
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