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Held Hostage

Deadly Sushi

Deadly Sushi

The One, The Only, Sushi
Well not QUITE being held hostage but close enough. Alcoholic man loves woman. has threats if she leaves.
THAT was my experience at a nice Italian restaurant / bar I went to tonight. Ive known her... them for 4 months. She finally spits it out.
Ohhhhhhh funcking GREAT!!!! JUst what I need. Now I have to save HER ass. I COULD do nothing. But thats NOT me. I CAN help her remotely. VIA calls. BUTTTTTTTTTTTTT I CAN NOOOOT see a women beat!!!! No way man.

I need your input and DONT tell me to stay out of it. She NEEDS help!
 
hurts her. I called the local police to get their opinion. No one is there to help. They said call in 15 mins. argh
 
i will NOT sit or wait in this type of situation. It may take weeks but I WILL help her. A person that asks for help (its not a scam because I know them) is a VERY serious thing for me. She has no kids but is living with the guy.
 
Well, it sounds like the police is laughing at you for one thing :rolleyes: IF she really wanted to get away from him she can wait until he goes to sleep, or gets too drunk to stop her.
 
Sounds like she doesn't need your help so much as her own. Tell her to buy him a case of beer or liter of his favorite poisen; when he passes out, pack everything and go far away.

Of course, right now I'm having a beer and my wife is passed out [from a long day - no beer] so weight my advice accordingly.
 
Deadly Sushi said:
i will NOT sit or wait in this type of situation. It may take weeks but I WILL help her. A person that asks for help (its not a scam because I know them) is a VERY serious thing for me. She has no kids but is living with the guy.
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You know her personally? so you know her problem is legit?
 
Police laughing... yup. Her geting away not so easy. He of course knows where she works. He owns a landscaping business. So he can do whatever as far as time.
 
Sushi....I myself have been in her place (once upon a time) YOU can do nothing if she doesn't help. There is a good chance you will butt in and she will not back you up. If she has not kids she can disappear anywhere, and time.
 
Alerting the police was a pretty good idea, The ball's in their court now. However, for you, the best advice would be to stay out of it.
Ya know why cops don't answer domestics alone? It's because, a goodly share of the time, before the "visit" is complete, they have the abused woman going after them too.
Now, you ain't no cop, so what do you think your chances are being on the receiving end of a double pounding from him and her? Remember, you won't have any backup.
I"m serious! You, very likely, might get the worst end of this deal.
 
American Woman said:
YOU can do nothing if she doesn't help. There is a good chance you will butt in and she will not back you up. If she has not kids she can disappear anywhere, and time.
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Ditto that; both sentences. Barring a serious career or family needs maintaining her location, she has to make the choice to get out of town - else she has to make the choice to get out and get real good with martial arts or target practice.
 
I"m serious! You, very likely, might get the worst end of this deal.
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FUNCK IT!!!! if there is a chance I can help this type of situation I will. This will all probably mull out to nothing. But I MUST query every point I know. I hate..... HATE when someone is in a personal prison!!!!! :hammer:
 
Sushi...I'm tell'in ya...if there are no kids involved then the sky is the limit for this girl. I question the fact she said anything to you. Women in this situation usually DON'T get other people involved because of the fear of her "capture" hurting someone else.
 
Sushi.
How many ****ing times will it take before you learn your lesson. Stay out of it. You called the police. Maybe get some spousel abuse pamphlets and give them to her. BUT she has to figure out what to do from there. Besides when you start ****ing around with another mans woman for good or bad reasons you are just asking for problems. SHE has to be the one who makes the first move. If he hits her in front of you then you put him down but other than that stay the **** out of it! Shes not your sister. Not your Mom. Just leave it alone Sush. Your gonna **** it up worse than it is. Stay the **** away from this. Ive been there at domestics as an officer and I can tell you thats one place you dont want to be. If you EVER listen to anything any of us ever suggest to you then this it it. You didnt listen to us about the car......How did that turn out? I'm telling you Sushi listen to me now just this once.
 
Deadly Sushi said:
I closed the book
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Sounds like you made a wise decision.
You can't help every single person in the world Paul, as much as you'd like to.
There comes a time when you have to not get involved in someone else's screwed up mess.
Been there done that myself, many times.
Just detach yourself, even though it may be hard to do.
 
It HER problem. Disregard this thread. I have NO business in HER business. I need to focus on MY stuff. Screw it. Im NOT freakin Batman! :(

Sorry that I got you folks involved. Im a do-gooder that sometimes trys to do good when its out of my realm. Now Im going to sleep. :mellow:
 
Sushi, I agree there is only so much you can do. When I was a young Marine my neighbor in Garden Grove used to just beat the hell outta his wife. One morning I had to go to the rifle range and he was up at 1 am beating his wife again. I had had it. I went out in the courtyard and we pretty much beat the hell outta each other. But I really beat the hell out of him. I would have beat him a lot more but his wife, you know, the one he was beating was trying to scratch my eyes out. She was pissed at me until he threw her out of his car and he went to jail. Never seen either one again. I think they deserved each other.
 
OOOoooh, methinks Sush was going to don his shiny armor, mount his white steed and rescue the damsel in distress. Whereupon, she would be so grateful that she would rip her clothes off and exclaim; "Sir Sushi, take me, take me, NOW!!! Thou hast ridden to my rescue, and forever, shall I be indebted to you. Take the first installment now!!!!"
IOW, He's thinkin' with the wrong head. Good job forgetting about it, Sush.:punk:
 
OOOoooh, methinks Sush was going to don his shiny armor, mount his white steed and rescue the damsel in distress. Whereupon, she would be so grateful that she would rip her clothes off and exclaim; "Sir Sushi, take me, take me, NOW!!! Thou hast ridden to my rescue, and forever, shall I be indebted to you.
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Never entered my mind :whistling: :w00t:
 
mak2 said:
She was pissed at me until he threw her out of his car and he went to jail. Never seen either one again. I think they deserved each other.
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I have tried helping in the past too. I helped with hiding them out, and sometimes supporting them and kids. 9 times out of 10 they go back to the abuser, and she's forbidden to to talk to me. It's hard to watch that. They won't leave until they get their belly full of it. It took me caring more for my daughter than myself.
 
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