Diana...

[tsaw]

Tsaw has been through Hell and back. I just need to let you know...

My friends on here know me and my daughter Diana. I raised her as a baby, and her mom has not been in her life. When Diana turned 18 and was graduating from highschool, her mom who lives in Texas, made big plans for her graduation. Was going to show up and blaaa blaa blaaa. She was a no show. Diana's mom has been trying for years to get my daughter to move to Texas all her life. Well... Diana never did move to TX... Diana graduated, got a great job here in the Hayward Community credit union. She had a full benefits package:
Health insurance
Life insurance
Dental
Retirement
5 Sick Days a year
10 vacation days a year
End of the year bonus
Overtime pay for meetings at a fancy restaurant


OK... So she worked a year, got 10 days vacation... and her mom convinced her to come see her.

No problem here with tsaw! Go see mom. You need to connect with your mom.

When she gets home... she says she is giving 2 weeks notice to her job and moving!@ WTF!!!???

I support this decision. ( that is my job as a parent)


Well - it did not work out. She is on her way back home..

and now her life is wreaked.

And her mom goes on public Facebook and blames me?

Good God !!~~ where is the justice in life????????????

 

[pirate_girl]

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Tsssssssssssssss!!!
One of the biggest reasons Facebook SUCKS!

 

[tsaw]

I swear FF has become nothing but read the last sentence of a post and comment on that. And ignore the whole point of the entire post. Oh well... yea.. facebook sucks. My friend PG of all people!

 

[pirate_girl]

I swear FF has become nothing but read the last sentence of a post and comment on that. And ignore the whole point of the entire post. Oh well... yea.. facebook sucks. My friend PG of all people!

Everything you said prior to the Facebook thing, I could swear, you talked about before.. so that came as no surprise.

 

[fogtender]

Her life isn't wrecked, it is just taken a set back and your wisdom will be a lot more sound now that she has all the reasons to know that her mom didn't want her in her mom's life to start with.

Sad, but you win, although it looks gloomy, you will step up to the plate and help her get her feet back on the ground.

Besides, if she gave two weeks notice, they may take her back at work in a heartbeat, that is a rare thing nowdays to have someone that honors their employer!

You did good, and it is going to show shortly!

Congrats!

 

[Lia]

Tsaw has been through Hell and back. I just need to let you know...

My friends on here know me and my daughter Diana. I raised her as a baby, and her mom has not been in her life. When Diana turned 18 and was graduating from highschool, her mom who lives in Texas, made big plans for her graduation. Was going to show up and blaaa blaa blaaa. She was a no show. Diana's mom has been trying for years to get my daughter to move to Texas all her life. Well... Diana never did move to TX... Diana graduated, got a great job here in the Hayward Community credit union. She had a full benefits package:
Health insurance
Life insurance
Dental
Retirement
5 Sick Days a year
10 vacation days a year
End of the year bonus
Overtime pay for meetings at a fancy restaurant


OK... So she worked a year, got 10 days vacation... and her mom convinced her to come see her.

No problem here with tsaw! Go see mom. You need to connect with your mom.

When she gets home... she says she is giving 2 weeks notice to her job and moving!@ WTF!!!???

I support this decision. ( that is my job as a parent)


Well - it did not work out. She is on her way back home..

and now her life is wreaked.

And her mom goes on public Facebook and blames me?

Good God !!~~ where is the justice in life????????????

tsaw, not only is she older, wiser and more aware now, but she's just spent a small portion of her time at the 'University of life.' And, here's what she learned in that short time. She learned that life isn't always what it appears to be, and that initial appearances can be deceptive.

But here's the good part, later on in life, she will be looking back on this period, and realizing who it was, in photo's and memories, that actually attended her graduation. She will be remembering who was there when she was a child, who kept their promises, and who was steady and reliable during her nurtutring years. You!

And, there ain't a thing that her mother can add to those memories now, that can make herself look good in her daughters life, Its too late to turn back the clock!

Whereas you will be the leading light in them, her memories and photo's. She's learning fast about life, and she's doing it with the sureguard safety net that you have provided and are still providing her with, to ensure that her emotional welfare will suffer no real hard shocks.

Just 'be there' always, you've done an excellent job, and nothing can take away from that.

 

[Cowboy]

Tsaw has been through Hell and back. I just need to let you know...

My friends on here know me and my daughter Diana. I raised her as a baby, and her mom has not been in her life. When Diana turned 18 and was graduating from highschool, her mom who lives in Texas, made big plans for her graduation. Was going to show up and blaaa blaa blaaa. She was a no show. Diana's mom has been trying for years to get my daughter to move to Texas all her life. Well... Diana never did move to TX... Diana graduated, got a great job here in the Hayward Community credit union. She had a full benefits package:
Health insurance
Life insurance
Dental
Retirement
5 Sick Days a year
10 vacation days a year
End of the year bonus
Overtime pay for meetings at a fancy restaurant


OK... So she worked a year, got 10 days vacation... and her mom convinced her to come see her.

No problem here with tsaw! Go see mom. You need to connect with your mom.

When she gets home... she says she is giving 2 weeks notice to her job and moving!@ WTF!!!???

I support this decision. ( that is my job as a parent)


Well - it did not work out. She is on her way back home..

and now her life is wreaked.

And her mom goes on public Facebook and blames me?

Good God !!~~ where is the justice in life????????????

First off I think Foggy and Lia nailed it Tom . Secondly I hadn't heard that she had been doing that good the last year or so , of coarse I might have missed it somewhere . But it sounds like she has done perty good with the job and all, and like Foggy stated that was very responsible of her giving two weeks notice. I would say she has a great chance of getting the same job back if she was a good employee while working there .


I think you knew in your heart that she was going to at least have to try living with her mom at some point and time so at least thats out of the way now . Congrats to you for allowing her to do so . Sounds to me like the rough parts over and its time for you both to get back on track .

Dont sweat the facebook deal, that kind of crap will only come back to bite her in the butt and thats where the justice comes in . Just forget the past chaulk it off to a lifes experience and look forward to the future , sounds like you are doing a good job and congrats to both of you .

 

[tommu56]

Well now she graduated from the school of hard knocks tell her to keep putting one foot in front of another and keep going!

 

[JEV]

Your ex reminds me of a saying from a very wise old man I knew..."If it has tits or wheels, it's eventually going to be trouble." My life is a testament to that wisdom...in spades! My wife's car refused to start last night while a the gas pumps at Sam's Club, and it somehow became MY FAULT. I called AAA and then went to the bar instead of coming home, and can't remember why she told me it was my fault.

My condolences on what you are going through. It's why the really smart people in the world stay single.

 

[tsaw]

Diana is home safe!! Starts back at her job on Monday!!
They have not been able to fill her position.
This sure has been a roller coaster ride for me.
One that i don't ever care to ride again.
The nasty comments posted on FB by her mom toward me - I left hanging out there - without a reply from me. She was put in her place by others - I didn't need to reply.
JEV, tommu56, Cowboy, Lia, Fogtender, Thank you for understanding what I was talking about.

 

[JEV]

Diana is home safe!! Starts back at her job on Monday!!
They have not been able to fill her position.
This sure has been a roller coaster ride for me.
One that i don't ever care to ride again.
The nasty comments posted on FB by her mom toward me - I left hanging out there - without a reply from me. She was put in her place by others - I didn't need to reply.
JEV, tommu56, Cowboy, Lia, Fogtender, Thank you for understanding what I was talking about.

I love it when mutual acquaintances come to the rescue of the victim in these situations, especially in a public/semi-public venue like facebook. It validates the fact that your ex is not playing with a full deck, and that you're not the monster she's making you out to be. Sounds like she's got some serious issues she's trying to hide by attacking you. Glad it's working out for you and your daughter.

 

[Doc]

Ditto what JEV said. Sure sounds like it is all working out for the better for Dina and you. The best part is you didn't have to reply on face-book, that the acquaintances took care of that for you. Good for them.

 

[fogtender]

Outstanding! You need to drop a hint that she needs to take you out to dinner to celebrate after her first full paycheck!

Even if you do buy!

Congrats! You did good raising her and now the tree starts to bare fruit! Her mom just ensured that she isn't going to be a factor in your daughter's life again, which is both a shame for her mom and a blessing for you!

And you had doubt's about our advice... shame on you!

 

[waybomb]

I swear to God - there is a silver lining in every dark cloud.

Good for her!

 

[pirate_girl]

Sorry if I sounded snippy Tom, but I recently experienced some Facebook drama concerning my older son and his soon to be ex-wife.
ALL THE BEST FOR DIANA.
You sure have gone down a bumpy road with that girl.
Glad it's all looking better now.
Stay away from Facebook. What you don't see won't hurt you, unless someone of course tells you alllllll about it.