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Bad week

mak2

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I am very vocal about the need for America to have universal healthcare. This is what is happening to my family right now. Might I change my mind?

I left work about the normal time Monday afternoon. (one week ago) I decided not to go ot the Y but to go home and ride my bike for an hour or two. Our little town gives away free mulch to citizens so I spent about 15 min picking up a load in my pickup on hte way home. I went on home after that and my sons, 14 and 15 were out at the end of the driveway yelling and jumping around saying Mom was freaking out but would not let them call an ambulance. My wife is a redhead and if anyone else knows any they really do freak out sometimes. Well as I was backing up the driveway the boys were telling me her back hurt and something popped and she was laying on the floor sceaming. So I put the truck in park and ran in the house. She was in the basement by the couch screaming and rolling back and forth. My first thought was slipped disc v. anureseum (sp?) and she said her back quit hurting it was her leg. Hum nerve ? Anyway I called the ambulance within 2 min of walking in the house. The ambulance crew arrived and I cannot rmember wether they asked for my insurance card or where she was at first but at about the same time. I have great insurance. From the time ot the call to arrival at the hospital was about 30 min. at the local hospital the ambulance guys dropped her off in a room in the ER and left. A secretary type guy came in and got the insurance card and left. Did not see anyone else for 30 minutes. She was screaming and thrashing about still so I went out and got someone, by the way they were not very busy, just sitting around the break table. She had worked there for 15 years or so when someone recognized her, or realized my insurance was golden, we got much better service. talking to the doctor he thought it might be a slipped disk I asked him aobut the loss of circulation to right leg. He too looked very puzzled and said he would send her for imaging. I said I would go home put up the dogs and be right back. I live less than a mile from the hospital when he called me on the cell phone. He said lifeline was on its way and to come back immediately.

She had a huge clot in her aorta. It had somehow clotted off the aorta where it biforcates and cut off circutlation to at first (around 1530) to her right leg, and by the time the doctor started looking at her the Left leg has lost circutlation too. So they flew her to they big surgey center down town, rushed her to surgery about 830 or so. I have pretty much been here every since. She is in the intensive care area still. They took the ET (breathing tube) out yesterday. She has minimum movement in her right leg but does have distal pulses. She really might never be able to walk normally again. But she is alive, damn lucky. I hate to even think about the thousands and thousands of dollars we have spent this week. But as soon as the ER doc in the local ER realized what was going on it has been an incredibly smooth operation.

But every single provider we have dealt with so far ask about he insurance first. Hope I never know how it would have went without insurance.

This was last Monday.

My wife is okay. She is slated to go to rehab Friday or monday. This is the first chance I have had to have a few beers and relax but I have to go to work so I can thave too many.

But later the rest of the story.
 
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Oh wow Mak!!!
Sorry to hear about that, and all the stress it's caused you.
I hear ya about the insurance thing, it's like that is the all important thing to be dealt with before any sort of medical treatment can be provided.

I am happy to hear your wife is getting the best care for this,and will most likely be fine.;)
 
DEAR GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Would you like one of us to call you?!?!? You must be going crazy over there!

PM me your number if you would like to chit chat. BTW I have zero health insurance right now. So in that respect you ARE lucky.
 
Though I never have that problem living in Canada, I hear ya about the insurance thing.(I'm not saying our health care system is perfect....not by any means. But at least I don't have to worry about showing an insurance card to everyone before they even consider looking at me down at the hospital) The main thing is they caught it in time and she's alive. Hope everything works out for you guys.
 
DEAR GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Would you like one of us to call you?!?!? You must be going crazy over there!

PM me your number if you would like to chit chat. BTW I have zero health insurance right now. So in that respect you ARE lucky.

See this is why I never yell at you, Shushi. You are a good guy. this has been a week of loss. My step dad has pacreatic cancer and had a stroke on Apr 1, our neighbor accorss the street has liver cancer and is in his last few weeks. Neither mean much to me but a lot to my boys age 14 and 15. Both will probalby pass away in the next few weeks. Oddly enough a real good buddy of mine at work just kicked the bucket for no reason I know of. I really will miss him.

My wife has many weeks of rehab ahead of her.

I dont know how long it has been since I spent much time on this fourm but I surf thru evey day.

I will get into more detail as the days go on. I really need to tie on a good drunk but just dont have the time dammit.
 
See this is why I never yell at you, Shushi. You are a good guy. this has been a week of loss. My step dad has pacreatic cancer and had a stroke on Apr 1, our neighbor accorss the street has liver cancer and is in his last few weeks. Neither mean much to me but a lot to my boys age 14 and 15. Both will probalby pass away in the next few weeks. Oddly enough a real good buddy of mine at work just kicked the bucket for no reason I know of. I really will miss him.

My wife has many weeks of rehab ahead of her.

I dont know how long it has been since I spent much time on this fourm but I surf thru evey day.

I will get into more detail as the days go on. I really need to tie on a good drunk but just dont have the time dammit.


Like I said, if ya wanna chat just PM the number and WhATEVER you do...
DONT DRIVE AFTER DRINKING!

Stay safe buddy. Prayers for your family and especially your wife!
 
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I am home in my basement gettin ready to hit the rack. Thanks for the vent.
We love you Mak!!
Think positive now.. she's in the best place she can be.
I've read all the stuff you've posted up there and based on what you've told us, she'll be ok.
 
Best wishes for your wife mak! That is a scary thing to go through and it sounds like you were lucky to show up when you did.

I'm not sure nationalized/universal healthcare would have made anything better. That's not to say that the current system isn't broken. If you (or anyone else) wants to debate the issue then please open a separate thread in the Debate and Discussion area or if you wish then I can move this thread over there.
 
I don't see a need to move this thread. It's all about Mak2 and his wife. That's where the focus should be right now. No need to get into a pointless debate over health care systems.
 
I don't see a need to move this thread. It's all about Mak2 and his wife. That's where the focus should be right now. No need to get into a pointless debate over health care systems.
I'm sure as hell not going to get into a debate over health care.. I posted strictly because I am concerned for Mak and his wife.
 
Cant even think about all you have been thru this week. I do have to wonder if medical care for all would have been better or worse or no different. Where we are even with insurance, it pretty much sucks. I have seen this, if you are illegal, no insurance, or no way to pay........you still get the same service others get. Not sure how that grinds with me. I guess the best way is order of need then first come first served.

good luck with this, and if you tie one on, take sushi advice, dont drive.
 
I don't see a need to move this thread. It's all about Mak2 and his wife. That's where the focus should be right now. No need to get into a pointless debate over health care systems.

Just doing my moderator duties. This is a "Seriously Speaking" thread which means no debating. Unless Mak wants it moved - it's his call.
 
I am very vocal about the need for America to have universal healthcare. This is what is happening to my family right now. Might I change my mind?

Well glad your wife's outlook is good.

Asking for the insurance card is a pain, but what is worse is that where they don't ask for it isn't for "profit", and the race to find out the problems aren't as intense for the cure.

Nobody wants to lose a good customer.

With national health care, there won't be "For Profit" and the urgency will be a bit less to resolve health issues because those that call the shots are accountants, not doctors...

I worked in Federal Civil Service for awhile, and that was a good example of what to expect in the Hospitals after that becomes Federal.

Much rather deal with people that want to have a profit motive to do a good job rather than just "having a job".....
 
prayers heading your way.
Glad to hear there are distal pulses - that's a very good sign.
Most rehab hospitals are very good and will get as much out of her as she's willing to put in.
Good luck.
 
Like you said, what a week. Best wishes for a speedy recovery for your wife, and for you and the boys during this time. It's going to be tough, but together you will all get through it. Please keep us posted as you can.
 
Hang in there Mak! Hospitals and rehabs help the patients but the whole experience takes a toll on the family. Prayers for you and your boys as well as the wife. Bill
 
Whats the latest?

She is headed for rehab on Friday or monday. Her PCA pump (IV pain meds) is off. She is doing very well. :clap: Thanks everyone for the thoughts and prayers.

However my step dad is only on a PCA pump, just morphine.

My kids actually seem to be doing pretty well. I am finding out about behavior problems at school. Seems Mom had been covering for my youngest. He is suppose to be the last one out the door because he is in middle school. He slept in 10 times this year, then just did not go to school. I knew of only once and about took his computer away. Supposedly this has not happened since last semester. I have to make an appointment with his probation officer. :angry:
 
First, prayers for your wife and family and hope for a speedy recovery.

I had a similar experience with my wife. She went to the emergency room where she sat for 7 hours in pain. They did absolutely nothing for her but told her she had an infection which was false and gain her some motrin and antibiotics. Then when she proceeded to leave they told her the co-pay was $350 and I have really good insurance. She just paid it and left because she was in pain.

She took the antibiotics which did nothing so she then went to another emergency room which found out the problem, then told her the co-pay was $50 (which they later mailed back to us). After following up with my insurance company the first hospital charged her not only for the co-pay but for the entire deductible. She is currently fighting with the hospital for our money back.

She said the whole time she was in both emergency rooms, there were people coming in and out using the ER as their primary care and not paying a dime nor did they have any insurance. I told her to tell them that she should at least get to go first since we are paying.
 
Well my son has managed to stay out of prision and my wife is set to come home on the 29th.

One bill for transportation alone is $13000.00+

And again everyone, thanks for your support.
 
Well wishes to all. Illness takes time to recover from. I hear you on the bills. Cleveland Clinic bill was $20,000 per day when I was on life support for 2 weeks. It will all work out in the end.
 
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