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Another Reason To Hate Facebook

pirate_girl

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I was going to put this in rants and raves, but figured it would be best posted here--

Without going into too much detail, my oldest son and his wife have decided to split.
Well, it was HER decision, not his.
Anyway, a former sister-in-law of mine found it appropriate to post about it on her FB page.
She was carrying on about it back and forth between other FB members from what I have been told.
A co-worker of mine and also a long time friend of the family told me about it today.
Now let me see, former SIL has been OUT of the family circle since the ex and I divorced back in the early 90s.
She -still being my sons Aunt, has had zero contact with him at all for a very long time.

Why do people do this?
When Jeff finds out about it, he's not going to be pleased.
Of course I think he'll understand a little maybe, since his Father's family were nothing more than a band of idiots.
 
Maybe this is just the modern day gossip feature but why folks discuss the dirty laundry online is beyond me. Never cared for any of these sites and this is one of many reasons why.
 
In order to gain friends most allow friends of friends to view their data. This lets in hords of people some who know someone you know but not necessarily a friend.

Like someone posted a while back facebook is the tool the FBI dreamed of but never expected it to fall in their laps. Folks volunteering all sorts of personal information. :eek: :crazy:
 
muleman said:
Maybe this is just the modern day gossip feature but why folks discuss the dirty laundry online is beyond me. Never cared for any of these sites and this is one of many reasons why.
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I agree, it never ceases to amaze me how free people are with their familial interactions and personal trauma's in a public arena.

Doc said:
In order to gain friends most allow friends of friends to view their data. This lets in hords of people some who know someone you know but not necessarily a friend.

Like someone posted a while back facebook is the tool the FBI dreamed of but never expected it to fall in their laps. Folks volunteering all sorts of personal information. :eek: :crazy:
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Crazy indeed.
 
Muley nailed it. It's the new form of gossip. Those same people were going to pass the info and talk about it anyway... only thing is that now ALL their friends are seeing it...
 
I actually just recently got rid of my Facebook. Not necessarily because of all the bad things (in which there seem to be many) but mostly because it just doesn't serve me any purpose.

I don't like when people spend all day on Facebook. And I hate when people constantly have to check it on their phones or on their computer when they're hanging out with someone.
 
To be honest PG and no disrespect to you in anyway but you posting here about them splitting is no different from her posting on facebook.....we can all lay it on the line somewhere on the net and just presume family/friends are not members and will not see it.

Divorce is a ugly thing and facebook/forums just helps bad mouth the other party among friends/family in a modern way.....no different to the old day's i guess just a bit of electronic gizmo's helping stir the shit a little faster.

I know how the ugly side of divorce works and i wish i could go back with my wiser older head to correct some of my behaviour,the only ones that suffer in the long run is any kids involved.

I hope your son finds future happiness PG....and get them to talk as paying Lawyers to talk for them will only make things much worse.:flowers:
 
Galvatron said:
To be honest PG and no disrespect to you in anyway but you posting here about them splitting is no different from her posting on facebook.....we can all lay it on the line somewhere on the net and just presume family/friends are not members and will not see it.

Divorce is a ugly thing and facebook/forums just helps bad mouth the other party among friends/family in a modern way.....no different to the old day's i guess just a bit of electronic gizmo's helping stir the shit a little faster.

I know how the ugly side of divorce works and i wish i could go back with my wiser older head to correct some of my behaviour,the only ones that suffer in the long run is any kids involved.

I hope your son finds future happiness PG....and get them to talk as paying Lawyers to talk for them will only make things much worse.:flowers:
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Well Galv.. FYI..some of those I am close to on here already knew about what was going on in my son's life, and how it's had me very stressed.
I knew someone would bring up or think exactly what you said.

The difference here is; what SHE posted on FB went into detail, and I do mean DETAILED info for everyone to see. Why should it be anything she'd want to talk about after all these years and being distant from both of my sons anyway?

My main gripe here is having gone to work yesterday and having Michelle say to me she'd read what B said on FB.
I was like "WHAT THE HELL, you have got to be kidding me!"
I do have to wonder how she really found out about it as well.
Like was said before, nothing is sacred on the internet and people will post things not caring at all how those things impact others.
 
rback33 said:
Muley nailed it. It's the new form of gossip. Those same people were going to pass the info and talk about it anyway... only thing is that now ALL their friends are seeing it...
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What most people don't understand is that along with your friends seeing it, so to do your enemies.
 
pirate_girl said:
My main gripe here is having gone to work yesterday and having Michelle say to me she'd read what B said on FB.
I was like "WHAT THE HELL, you have got to be kidding me!"
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PG this shit happens and yes it hurts....i remember going through my split and my ex made friends with a co-worker of mine just to spill the shit into my place of work....no internet back then to assist ......things will get worse before they get better trust me on that but he will move on and be happy again....just be strong for your son and tell him not to play her games...be the better person as to speak.

And even you would be best to avoid reading this shit.... life's to short for stress:flowers:

PS.... i do not use facebook....i find it way to intrusive and should be re-named :gay:book
 
Well, I no longer have a FB account and sure as hell wouldn't get another one, if only for the sake of knowing exactly what was said... if in fact that were possible.

Just pisses me off how people from the past apparently have nothing better to do than spread "breaking news"..
My, my.. just wait until I run into her in public next time.
She's going to get an earful.

Thanks Galvi.
You really did make me feel better about it.
I don't think I'll even mention it to Jeff next time we talk.
The only thing accomplished there would be more pain for him... which is the last thing he needs right now.
 
I think Facebook can be and is an incredible asset. Free marketing, free transcontinental interaction, free web albums etc. Use it wisely and you can reduce the impact from iceholes with no sense of boundaries or respect for others' privacy.

I thought about Galvi's comments and there is a pretty critical distinction between PG's comments here and those on Facebook: anonymity.
 
I try to keep anything that is too personal off the internet (forums, etc) especially when it concerns other people in my life. Whether it is something good or bad I don't feel it's my place to post their business for everyone to see. That includes pictures, etc.. You also will never see me post a picture of my kids on any forum. Once it's out there, it's out there and there are too many weirdos in this world.
 
jpr62902 said:
I thought about Galvi's comments and there is a pretty critical distinction between PG's comments here and those on Facebook: anonymity.
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You are joking:unsure:......if a family or friend happened to stumble upon FF and look through PG's posts just one picture of her or one of her loved ones would crush what you just said.....chances are slim but you never know....hence i only post the truth about my life and will never feel out of place if any of them did find me hanging out with you bunch of mis-fits:yum::yum::yum:
 
Galvatron said:
You are joking:unsure:......if a family or friend happened to stumble upon FF and look through PG's posts just one picture of her or one of her loved ones would crush what you just said.....chances are slim but you never know....hence i only post the truth about my life and will never feel out of place if any of them did find me hanging out with you bunch of mis-fits:yum::yum::yum:
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Well, maybe not absolute anonymity, but enough that one would have to do a bit of sleuthing to figure out who's who. What's the likelihood that someone will just "stumble upon FF"? It's not like we're Facebook.:whistling:
 
The anonymity here is what you make of it. If you post pics of yourself you might be seen by someone that knows you. If someone wants to find you they would have little to go on other than your posts and profile. They might know the part of the state you live in but without your full name and town it would be hard to find you.

On Facebook most put their real name, with maiden name for many gals, and the town they live in. Makes it pretty easy for friend or foe to find them if the info is true. I do believe therei is more anonymity here on forumsforums. Long time members get to know you by the total of your posts but causal passers by won't know much at all unless they hit just the right thread. In the long run it can be more anonymous here but it's all up to you and what you decide to share.
 
Galvatron said:
we can all lay it on the line somewhere on the net and just presume family/friends are not members and will not see it.

facebook/forums just helps bad mouth the other party among friends/family in a modern way.....no different to the old day's i guess just a bit of electronic gizmo's helping stir the shit a little faster.
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Which goes back to rback's comment about it being gossip. A bunch of people in the vestibule after church can be just as effective at spreading "news" as FB, just not to an entire world....as fast.





jpr62902 said:
I think Facebook can be and is an incredible asset. Free marketing, free transcontinental interaction, free web albums etc. Use it wisely and you can reduce the impact from iceholes with no sense of boundaries or respect for others' privacy.

I thought about Galvi's comments and there is a pretty critical distinction between PG's comments here and those on Facebook: anonymity.
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The simple fact is that anything can be used for good or harm. It's all dependent on the person using it.

For myself, I got a Facebook account for the purpose of locating long-lost high school friends. I piced FB because of it's wild popularity and the fact that (almost) everybody is on it. It worked! In the process, I have "found" cousins that I had no clue were even around. One of which lives 2 1/2 hrs away from me.

So, for me, FB has been an asset. Now for the purposes named in the beginning of this thread, it has been used for harm.

In essence, I would say that it's not Facebook what needs hating, just those who misuse it.
 
I enjoy the fact that various internet searches for my real name turn up a bunch of lawyers and other misfits but none ever pinpoints me or anything about me. Some are even in Ohio!:yum::yum:
 
muleman said:
I enjoy the fact that various internet searches for my real name turn up a bunch of lawyers and other misfits but none ever pinpoints me or anything about me. Some are even in Ohio!:yum::yum:
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My real full name on facebook brings up a kick boxer:yum::yum::yum:......never ever googled myself til now and nothing.....i must either be boring or maybe just normal after all:whistling:
 
I still have a facebook account but have my privacy settings set to maximum. I'm very close to deleting my account alltogether but i still keep it to keep in contact with family.

A couple weeks ago, I got a spam message in my inbox on facebook that appeared to be from a friend. I accidently clicked on the link. Well now, some ahole out there is using my email address to continually spam everyone in my contact list. Facebook can stick it where the sun don't shine as far as I'm concerned.

Also, seems like every two weeks, they change their settings so I have to go back in and reconfigure my privacy settings.
 
Facebook, MySpace (etc. & ad nauseam) are "social networks". Being somewhat antisocial in makeup, hating these intrusive, gossip-laden, and unreliable sites is second nature to me, and I won't go there.

[As an aside, I was recently asked why I was so unwilling to believe the stuff that people post on these "social networks". My response was that you have no way to verify anything that someone posts. When they persisted, I told them that when I troll the 'net I'm a 19 year old blond nympho with big tits and an anal fetish ... and no one could prove otherwise.]

PG, remember: "Non-carborundum illegitimaii!"
 
muleman said:
I enjoy the fact that various internet searches for my real name turn up a bunch of lawyers and other misfits but none ever pinpoints me or anything about me. Some are even in Ohio!:yum::yum:
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You're gonna pay for that one, Donkey Sapiens.

Danang Sailor said:
Facebook, MySpace (etc. & ad nauseam) are "social networks". Being somewhat antisocial in makeup, hating these intrusive, gossip-laden, and unreliable sites is second nature to me, and I won't go there.

[As an aside, I was recently asked why I was so unwilling to believe the stuff that people post on these "social networks". My response was that you have no way to verify anything that someone posts. When they persisted, I told them that when I troll the 'net I'm a 19 year old blond nympho with big tits and an anal fetish ... and no one could prove otherwise.]

PG, remember: "Non-carborundum illegitimaii!"
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I knew it!!!!!:w00t2:
 
Divorce is not a nice thing... People seem to draw the line and take sides... The best thing they could do is just step back and let the two work it out good or bad. The "Sidelines" tend to mess things up and when the dust settles wonder why they are the odd person out... go figure.
 
muleman said:
I enjoy the fact that various internet searches for my real name turn up a bunch of lawyers and other misfits but none ever pinpoints me or anything about me. Some are even in Ohio!:yum::yum:
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Not sure if we have many "mulemen" in Ohio, but we sure got our fair share of "jackasses.":yum:
 
Well, getting back to topic,
I am so very sorry that a former family member should use a public venue such as facebook to broadcast personal views on a tragic subject like divorce. Other than death, few other subjects can have such an adverse impact on families. Unfortunately, words are like knives and can dig deep into our souls when we allow it. I’m so very sorry P.G. that a person with such a good spirit should have to suffer through the vengeful spite of someone who was once family. I have a facebook account and I use it to communicate with family and classmates. Some friends are now divorced and enjoy bashing the other on facebook but I just don’t pay too much attention since each has their own view. The people who enjoy posting bitterness are just bitter themselves and want to make it seem like it is someone else’s fault. Just wish those that wish you harm a “God Bless You and Your family” and let them get over being angry or wallow in their torment. The ball will be in their court.
 
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