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Advice on graveside visit.

Galvatron

Galvatron

Spock and Galvatron < one and the same
I have not visited the graves of my Father and Brother in many years and i have so much to say but no good from the mouth,my Brother i lost many years ago when he was 16 years old and he would have been 39 in a few days time...he missed so much...dad died in my arms when i was 24 so me now being 42 i have neglected them for way long over the years but they never leave my thoughts and prayers.

I have written letters for them ,will it piss of the groundskeepers if i leave them there and they blow around??

Should i take my family or go alone??
 
Take your letters and put them in a bottle, glass or plastic, doesn't matter. Take a shovel and some flowers. At the grave near the head stone you dig a hole deep enough to bury your letters cover that up and plant flowers on top. The cemetery workers won't even know the letter are there.
 
I can't answer because I never visit where my parents and brother are buried. I don't think that their spirits are in the ground, I think they are in heaven. My dad loved to golf so I think of him him when I pass a golf course.
Personally I wouldn't worry about what the groundskeepers "like" or not they are just paid to do a job.
 
I visit my parents, brother, grandparents and some of the aunts and uncles each year before Memorial day and put flowers on the graves. Always take the siblings along, talk the hour up and back and sometimes visit the farm we grew up on. Who knows who is going to be next? We make a half day of it and enjoy each others company.
 
I wish I could visit my grandparents grave on a regular basis. Sadly I can't since they are all buried 3 hours away in my hometown.
 
Can't say if it's good or bad, but I feel no draw to visiting graves of relatives, regardless of how close. The wife visits her parents grave a couple times a year, outside of when we end up there for a burial. There's just absolutely no feeling of loss or guilt. Maybe it's from not being a very close family while growing up, and having an alcoholic father who was a mean drunk.

If it makes you feel better to visit the graves, just do it. Don't worry about the grave diggers.
 
My parents and uncle are not that far away physically but always close in my heart. I inherited many of their things so I think of them each time I use them or look at them.
 
Could you put the letters in a sealed plastic carriar/pouch? Maybe with string/wire to hook on headstone so it does not fly away, but can be removed by grounds crew if/when needed.
 
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