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A Tough week .

BigAl

BigAl

Gone But Not Forgotten
Drove all day to get to Idaho and when I walked through the door my brother was calling . His wife had a bad stroke . She was life flighted to Reno .

Got unpacked and returned as quickly as possible .

Now my brothers "Grown step daughter" says she is taking over and taking my brothers wife home with her to live , when she can leave the hospital . My brother is coming unglued . These two have never got along . What a mess . :sad:
 
Medical crisis is bad enough without family drama while it is going on. My family does not exist in my life except my dad and oldest sister anymore. Some of the stuff that went on while I was incapacitated was unreal. It took a court hearing in the hospital and my attorney to set them straight on what the law was. I wish him luck. I know my wife got an education from the ordeal I went through.You stay calm and know it will all work out in the end.
 
thcri said:
geez Al sorry to hear that. Hope all works out.
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They been married 20 years yesterday . I don't think the step daughter can do this unless she has a "Power of Attorney". I told Bob to talk with the Hospital Chaplin . I bet they see this sort of crap .

The sad part is this has nothing to do with helping Joni get better , the daughter just wants to pull a power play because she does not like my brother( her step dad) .

She has the whole family pissed off . Her own brother wants to choke her !
 
muleman said:
Medical crisis is bad enough without family drama while it is going on. My family does not exist in my life except my dad and oldest sister anymore. Some of the stuff that went on while I was incapacitated was unreal. It took a court hearing in the hospital and my attorney to set them straight on what the law was. I wish him luck. I know my wife got an education from the ordeal I went through.You stay calm and know it will all work out in the end.
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You know, it's so true that you find out who really cares in a time of crisis.
 
BigAl said:
They been married 20 years yesterday . I don't think the step daughter can do this unless she has a "Power of Attorney". I told Bob to talk with the Hospital Chaplin . I bet they see this sort of crap .

The sad part is this has nothing to do with helping Joni get better , the daughter just wants to pull a power play because she does not like my brother( her step dad) .

She has the whole family pissed off . Her own brother wants to choke her !
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IIRC, if Joni has lost legal capacity, any power of attorney is extinguished, unless it's a durable POA (at least in Ohio, anyway).

Is Joni lucid? Can she communicate?

I hate circumstances like this. Familia es por vida.
 
Your brother needs to get with the hospital patient advocate and her doctor. There are restrictions that can be enforced against anyone deemed to be a detriment to a patients health and recovery.
 
jpr62902 said:
IIRC, if Joni has lost legal capacity, any power of attorney is extinguished, unless it's a durable POA (at least in Ohio, anyway).

Is Joni lucid? Can she communicate?

I hate circumstances like this. Familia es por vida.
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Thank you ,Thank you ,Thank you !!!:clap: I should have remembered this from all the years I owned the Funeral home!!!!! Joni is in full control of her mental skills .
. Its the law in California . A DMPOA is all he needs to stop this non sense . I guess I was so tired last night that I just plain forgot .
I already called him to get the paperwork unless he already has it .


Thanks a million ,
Allen
 
Al, sorry to hear. Tell your brother we are thinking of him and his wife. hope he gets things straightened out. If he gets a POA he may want to consider a restraining order.
 
Every experience of this nature that I have observed has been that in the absence of a DPOA, it is the legal next of kin that calls the shots. Your brother is in the drivers seat.
 
Sorry to hear this Al.
Family members getting involved where they have no actual power to be involved is always fun, isn't it?
I went through something similar after my Mother died.
Thankfully, all that is now in the past.
You've been given good advice, looks like.
 
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